My dear step-father passed away yesterday, unexpectedly.
Ds (11yrs) is desperately sad and I don't know what to do. Other family members keep telling me what I should do but all their advice is conflicting and I'm doubting my ability to do the right thing.
I am a CM and have cancelled all my children for the week so I can go and be with my mum and to support ds.
My plan is to keep ds off school tomorrow and possibly for the week, if necessary but if he's up to it then I'll send him in sooner. He hasn't stopped crying since he found out and I can't see that sending him to school will be a good distraction (as has been suggested).
Ds has the opportunity to go and see his grandad in the hospital. I couldn't see him yesterday, my mum and dsis did but I just couldn't go in and I don't know whether to ask ds what he wants to do or just not mention it.
Finally, the funeral. My grandma died when I was a similar age to ds and the choices made for me regarding the funeral caused a huge family rift. Members of the family have made it clear what they think I should do re taking ds (or not) and I just feel so torn and confused.
The most important thing to me is to support ds as best as I possibly can. I know it's good for him to let it all out and it's very early days but what can I do to help him feel better?
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Ds' grandad has passed away...I don't know how to help him :(
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HiccupHaddockHorrendous · 15/06/2014 19:09
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