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Would you stay - NIL V Poorly!!

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Twinkie1 · 17/08/2006 16:39

Just thought I would ask you very wise ladies.

DH's grandmother had a major stroke yesterday which they don't think she is going to come out of - she hasn't regained consciousness yet! We all expected it - it's not the first stroke and she said she was only hanging on to see us married. She is lovely, a real character and so full of love for everyone, we will all really miss her. DH taking it very well though far better than I thought he would.

Thing is I am supposed to be going to Hen weekend of Best Friend's sister tomorrow night and returning on Sunday. DH said to go - that I can do nothing sitting around here and he will be occupied with DS anyway (he has had to cancel going to football as his mum was having DS and of course now she can't).

Thing is his grandmother may still be around for weeks to come yet as I am not sure what they do when a very old person is unconscious after a stroke so he says not to stop doing thinsg - but I just fear that if she passes over the weekend he will be here with just DS and all I can do is picture him crying on his own.

Am also not sure if it good form in terms of new in-laws - would they think I am horrid and callous if I go??

Its not really my thing that we are going to anyway but BF has just moved a long way a way and it would be nice to spend some time with her.

Oh I don't know what to do for the best - so help please!!!

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MerlinsBeard · 17/08/2006 16:41

can you go for part of it?

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Twinkie1 · 17/08/2006 16:42

Well could go Saturday morning v v early and then stay sober and drive back some god awful hour Sunday morning but if that was the case I most certainly wouldn;t go - I hate bloody festivals and if its raining will need a bloody good drink!!

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Twinkie1 · 17/08/2006 16:42

Well could go Saturday morning v v early and then stay sober and drive back some god awful hour Sunday morning but if that was the case I most certainly wouldn;t go - I hate bloody festivals and if its raining will need a bloody good drink!!

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saadia · 17/08/2006 16:45

If I were you I wouldn't go. It may be that dh's grandmother may be in this condition for weeks but it is all still new and if you went a few weeks down the line it wouldn't look so bad but if you go this weekend I'm afraid it might look uncaring.

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MerlinsBeard · 17/08/2006 16:45

didn't realise it was a festival. i have to say, your DH is right, there is nothing that you can do just by waiting around. I would go but be preparedd to come home straight away if needed. i'm not a drinker though so wuld just eb a cse of going for the next train (i don't drive either)

Sorry for shite advise! at least it keep it bumped for you

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