My mum died last week

[pcbmc00]

My mum has had cancer the last 2 years very advanced on initial diagnosis I feel I have been grieving for my mother the last 2 years and the sense of relief since she died has been overwhelming. I would have rang her 2/3 times a day and called in most days. I have 3 dc and work full time in a busy fast paced competitive job. Should I be more upset? Am I just going to collapse with grief soon. What's going on why am I not more sad?? I'm feeling ...guilty

[littlewaltham]

You are already grieving its a funny old process. Early days. Take comfort that the worry is over but the reflection will come in time.

[NaturalBlondeYeahRight]

My dad died last week of cancer too. I got upset on the night but I've kind of been ok since, it's a busy time of year, dad hated being ill and didn't even want treatment in the first place (we pursuaded him). I feel sorry for my mum more than anything. Don't think the way anyone feels is wrong.

[littlewaltham]

I make you right NatBlonde there is no right or wrong way to deal with death.

[NaturalBlondeYeahRight]

I think humans are probably intrinsically quite selfish, the relief can be huge (I think especially for those dealing with dementia I believe)
Have you had funeral yet? Ours won't be for a while yet, I'm wondering and worrying how I will feel then.