Hi, this is my first venture onto here (this part, not MN overall) so I apologise if this is a bit rambly.
I lost my dad 9 years ago and my mum 4 years ago, both before I was 30 and pre-DC. I just feel so overwhelmingly sad, particularly because neither my mum or my dad met their grandchildren.
DS is just three and asked me yesterday where my mummy was. I felt like someone had punched me in the stomach and couldn't think of how to possibly explain to him. I'm really ashamed that I changed the subject, but I'm going to have to brave those kinds of questions one day, because he's starting to work out family relationships etc., e.g. MIL and FIL being DH's parents. Plus we have pictures up in the house and he likes to ask who everyone is.
Sometimes the sadness is like it takes my breath away - no one to share the 'bump' months with, or to share the joy - and bloody hard work! - of baby years etc. I bristle when I see cards addressed to 'grandson' because it seems so unfair. Which is irrational and sounds so mean. Its like im grieving for what I lost and what the DC will never have.
And I don't know how to make it better.
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bigredtractor · 06/12/2013 21:46
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