Could I please ask your advice re friend's Dc?

(3 Posts)
MrsMargoLeadbetter Tue 19-Nov-13 09:24:55

Hi

Hope it is ok to post this here. I wonder if I could ask your advice pls.

A friend v sadly lost her small DC recently. She is living abroad. They will following the local tradition of a cremation and burial of the ashes in the country. I believe they (she & the rest of her family) plan to return to the UK at some point.

They have offered the name of a local hospice which helped them for donations in lieu of flowers.

I plan to donate to the hospice, but I also wondered if I should 'buy/sponsor a tree over here near where they used to live when the DC was conceived.

I like (and this is why I am asking, it obviously isn't about me) the idea of having something near where they lived to remember their DC. My reluctance is that a) they asked for hospice donations and b) could me doing something over here be seen as disrespecting their choice to bury the ashes there.

Or should I just ask? I just don't want to do something insensitive.

TIA

Pawprint Tue 19-Nov-13 18:07:39

I would go along with their wishes and make a donation.

MrsMargoLeadbetter Wed 20-Nov-13 08:10:36

Thanks your reply. Think I'll do as you suggest.

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