Wary about going to PIL

[JellyNump]

We're going to PIL tomoro night/Sat morning and I'm feeling a bit wary because it was when we were visiting them that our ds died. Can't really not go because dh and dd will want to see them as I do, but still feeling a bit cautious.

[Tommy]

not surprised jellynump
Hope it all goes OK.

[JellyNump]

It was ok!

[Charlottesweb]

Oh Jellynump How sad for you.. I do hope it wasn't too strenious on you xxx

[JellyNump]

The weekend was alright. It still feels a bit odd when we go there but hopefully that may get better??? Still think i'm 'looking for' ds, like I expect to find him when we're there?

[Charlottesweb]

Do you mind me asking what happened? If it's too much for you then feel free to ignore me.

[JellyNump]

we went ot visit PIL in May 2005 with 9 week old ds. We went to see DH's friends who gave ds a bottle and sat him up to burp him when ds started screaming. We thought perhaps bad wind or colic and tried rocking etc we eventually took him to a&e at the local hospital who referred us to the next nearest childrens hospital. they examined ds and said he needed an op for a hernia , dh went home to PIL to get some stuff for me and ds as I would have to stay overnight. As soon as the op was mentioned I knew it would nt be alright. I signed the consent form for the op and carried ds up to the theatre and handed him to a dr, the op was supposed to be about 45 minutes. They took ages, DH came back and we waited. Then a nurse called us into their office/staffroom and said he was having trouble breathing and they had put him on a ventilator. Then we were told an ambulance crew from Guys in London was coming out to transfer him there. Eventually a consultant came in to say he had made a turn for the worse and did we want to see him, they brought him into us and he died in our arms from intrapulmonary shunting.

[anniediv]

Jellynump, and . How terrible for you all.