I could do with some support (please)....

[ComeOVeneer]

here . Thank you.

[Crystaltips]

You are obviously having a horrid time ... you poor thing ... look after yourself .... thinking of you {{{{hugs}}}}

[Northerner]

Hi hun. So sorry this has happenned. I miscarried in April and remember that sad, lost feeling of absolute despair. It's awful, and you will be gutted. As soon as you know you are pregnant you beging to forms hopes and dreams for your baby and your family, and now they are gone.

But, it does get better, I promise. Your kids will be the best medicine really they will, and you can't keep thinking what if? I'm a great beleiver in if it's meant to be it will, regardless of what the mum does/takes. As my Dad says ' If my auntie had balls she'd be my uncle!'

Take time to grieve, look after yourself and don't expect too much from yourself just now.

xx

[desperate2bmum]

comeoveneer
i always wonder what if...i even clung onto hope after my missed m/c they would tellme a heart beat had been found. you have got to think positive honey the way i look at it thimgs happen for a reason as this time wasnt your time but chin up and try again things will work out (thats what im trying tothink)

[Coolmama]

Hello favourite dentist lady - so sorry to read all this - I completely missed your original thread and am very sad for what you have been through (including a clearly insensitive GP!)
It seems to me that a lot of what you are feeling at the moment is mired in complete confusion - by that I mean that you never had the chance to get your head around being pregnant to begin with ( and all the stuff about DH's medication ) and yet are now grieving for the loss of that little life (however small)

• so being unsure about everything at the mo is completely normal - it is very difficult to try to comprehend a loss when you haven't realised that you had something to begin with. I don't have any quick-fix ideas but I do know that you need to allow yourself to feel the loss -
  Try not to think too much about DH's medication (although I don't know anything about that) and what effect it amy or may not have had, there is no joy for you at the end of that road - rather, concentrate on getting physically better and allowing yourself to recognise and feel what is lost - allow yourself a little "sad" time - that is perfectly ok - most important - be gentle with yourself and DH - no blame or "what if" discussions -
  Take care -

[pepperpots]

Hun i dont really kn ow what to say tbh i just couldnt read this and not post. I have had 7 m/c eash one tears me apart so i do know what your going through just wanted to let you know there are others out there (((((((hugs))))))) xx

[FN]

Just seen this and so as already been said it does get easier I promise.

I hope you are getting some comfort from your family. How are you today?

[minkymoooo]

Hi guys, I just wanted to ask u, I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks (monday)had an erpc yesterday & was fine in hospital all day, hardly any bleeding only now Im back home the bleeding has got loads heavier & its also bright red! Is this normal? What do I do? Help!! N@ xxx

[SKYTVADICT]

Hi ComeOVeneer - sorry to read your situation. Had missed mc/ERPC in April but it must have been such a shock for you to find out you were pg during the mc. Loads must be going through your mind - take one day at a time and be strong.

minkymoooo - i had this after my missed mc/erpc for about 2 weeks on and off - think its quite normal. Had an infection during the second week but antibiotics cleared it up. Now had three normal AFs (having third at mo) and will be ttc from next week!

[MrsJohnCusack]

ComeOVeneer - really sorry, and what a total arse of a GP. If you can face it, would a complaint be in order?
This is a loss of course, but it's being confused by so many other feelings too, the guilt, the confusion, thinking about having another child but knowing that you can't at the moment, everything. You have to accept all those feelings and that you're allowed to have them, and that you are entitled to be upset about it all.
I am pretty sure I had one of these very early miscarriages just when we started TTC, and I don't think I dealt with it properly at the time because I wasn't sure about it - only a few months later did I get very upset about it.

[MagicGenie]

Hello CoV. How did your weekend go? x