Mum died suddenly in Greece

(11 Posts)
FriendofDorothy Sat 28-Sep-13 21:32:31

My parents have been on holiday in Greece and on Wednesday my Dad phoned to say that Mum had died of a heart attack and pulmonary oedema. She was only 63.

She hadn't been ill and I am just so devastated. My sister has gone out to support my Dad so I have been left to deal with everyone and everything here.

We don't know how long it will take for her body to be repatriated yet so the funeral could be a couple of weeks away.

How do I cope?
I have a nine month old boy who is keeping me going.
All I keep thinking is that my Mum isn't going to be there for his first birthday and I am just so, so sad about it all.

So so sorry. My dad died suddenly. It's awful. I don't know how you cope. But you do. Hang in there.

Hawkmoth Sat 28-Sep-13 21:35:28

I'm so sorry.

GladbagsGold Sat 28-Sep-13 21:38:01

Oh goodness. I am so sorry. I don't know how you cope. I know you will and I am glad you have your boy. My sympathies.

Lexiesinclair Sat 28-Sep-13 21:43:12

So very sorry FriendofDorothy. You will get through this. X

Mollydoggerson Sat 28-Sep-13 21:47:24

I am truly so sorry for your loss. How terrible and shocking for you all. It is devastating.

My father died 9 months ago and I am still heartbroken and cry often.

You asked how will you survive, the answer is you will survive, you will live day by day and just get on with all the practical things you have to do, and you will also cry a lot.

What I found helpful was:
Not caring when I cried, sometimes I would start crying in Tesco's while doing my shopping. I accepted I couldn't control it and just let myself cry.

Keep some kind of routine in your life. Get up, dressed and out of the house by a certain time every day

Try to get out walking. An hour's walking is as effective as some anti-depressants. It will give you headspace and also be prepared for tears when you are walking.

Take a multi vitamin. Bereavement is very physically hard on your body, so try to look after your own health.

Keep in touch with your friends. If they have not lost a parent or been bereaved they may not understand the enormity of what you are going through. Sometimes people shy away because they feel a bit awkward about bereavement, but let them know you want support and company in the months ahead.

I am so sorry for your loss xx.

Hassled Sat 28-Sep-13 21:50:51

I'm just so sorry.

My father died very suddenly some years ago and the shock affected me in very long-running, difficult ways - please just go easy on yourself. However you're feeling - that's fine, that's normal. You do cope - it's not so much that it gets easier, but that managing the grief becomes easier.

I know there'll be plenty of support here for you.

RaspberrySnowCone Sat 28-Sep-13 21:53:56

I have no useful advice Dor but didn't want to 'read and run' as they say. I'm sorry for your loss. Keep talking to people, enlist friends to help, keep in contact with us lot on here. Make time to cry, scream and shout into a pillow or on a shoulder. It might be a bit soon but perhaps when you're feeling a bit stronger get some photos out and sit with someone to go through them and think if the happy times. I'm rambling, there are just no words that can ease this sort of pain. I hope someone comes along that can provide some comforting words soon xx

t875 Sat 28-Sep-13 22:43:23

I so know what you are going through. I'm 19 months in now but my god the shock and traumaticness and panic I had after losing my mum suddenly to a stroke. It killed me inside.
It's got a little easier as times gone on but at the beginning it was horrendous. I'm spiritual though so I believe my mum is around and have had signs with this. But we are all different but I think this has given me some comfort at times but I miss her physically too. And some times are very hard still when I remember things. But I can also think of her and smile some days I also talk to her which has helped me. But then again some times it hasn't.

Take each minute, hour, day slowly and do what you are comfortable with and who you want to be around.

We have a link here called loss of a parent please come there I have had so much support from there.

Take care and hugs to you x

FriendofDorothy Sun 29-Sep-13 08:11:57

Where would I find that loss of a parent link?

I woke up this morning thinking, oh I must phone Mum and tell her that The Little Mister slept 12 hours last night. Then I remembered I couldn't! sad

t875 Sun 29-Sep-13 10:36:41

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/bereavement/1849632-Please-join-us-here-if-you-have-lost-a-parent-and-need-support-3

Hi friend of Dorothy. Massive hugs to you. It is more than tough I know xx I have tried to paste the link for you. Pm me too if you need a chat. Take care. (( hugs))

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