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My best friend died 17 years ago. I can't remember the exact date. Help.
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DoItTooJulia · 12/09/2013 21:57
My best friend died in a RTA 17 years ago, when we were 17.
I know it was October time. I was obviously distraught. I went to the funeral, I went to her home and chatted to her distraught parents. They showed me her bedroom, the bedroom I had slept in dozens of times.
For years I went to her grave and laid flowers. About 10 years ago I made the conscious decision to stop going as I found it so distressing. I noticed that some of our friends had also stopped going and I felt it was a private place for her parents and family.
I recently saw her mum. I had my children with me. I haven't seen her for a number of years. Seeing her bought it all back. I felt so awkward because there I was with the trappings of my happy and continuing life.
Now I am older, I feel that I want to visit her grave and lay some flowers again. I would also like to mark the anniversary of her death. But I can't remember when it was.
Do I just go at any time? Obviously the grave will have the date marked on it. I am also worried I won't remember where the grave is.
Would it be ok to go? Is there any way I can find out the date of her passing is without visiting the graveyard?
I think about her still, and quite often. I miss my friend. Not sure why I'm posting.
Sorry it's so long.
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