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boy at dd's school died

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2shoes · 19/06/2006 17:25

just got a letter home to say that aboy at dd's school has died. she goes to a special school and this isn't the first little person who has died. a couple of years ago her friend died.
she knew this boy so I have told her about it. just said that he had gone to be with X
feel the need to do something. do you think it would be odd for me to send the parents a card.
from dd and her family.

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april74 · 19/06/2006 17:27

I think that would be a lovely idea, how sad that this has happened.

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gothicmama · 19/06/2006 17:28

i think that would be a lovely idea

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mousiemousie · 19/06/2006 17:28

Yes, send the card. How sad for dd.

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trinityrhino · 19/06/2006 17:29

yes, send the card, it's a nice idea Smile

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peachygirl · 19/06/2006 17:33

A card would be lovely and you could ask the head if they are sending flowers and ask to chip in.
All the special schools I have worked in have had some kind of special aseembly too, where everyone remembers the child and certainly at my last school parents were invited to attend this.
It is a truly sad occasion when this happens.

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2shoes · 19/06/2006 17:34

dd is fine. i think she just accepts these thing he will be the 4th in her school 3 who she knew.
the school is very good and will have a service for the children.
I feel so Sad for the teacher. she dd's freinds teacher as well.Sad
I know these things happen but he would only have been about 9 just doesn't seem right

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2shoes · 19/06/2006 17:35

godd idea about the flowers I will contact the parent/govenor and ask her.

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2shoes · 21/06/2006 17:09

just found out it was sudden as well

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triplets · 21/06/2006 18:30

2shoes, do you know what happened? My son died suddenly, no explanation, it just seems to be happenoing more and more, I`m so sorry to hear that more lives will be shattered in the cruellest way.

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2shoes · 21/06/2006 22:52

no so sorry I don't. as he was in an sn school I can only assume it was to do with his condition.
so very sad for your loss. do hope me posting this didn't cause you any upset

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triplets · 25/06/2006 23:42

Hi,
It is always upsetting to hear about a childs death because I know the heartbreaking pain of it all. It is just the most most painful thing that can ever happen to you, my words are inadequate to describe the depth of it all. You cannot believe that you can survive it, yet you do, but you are never the same again, and thats the truth. So I am always desperately sad to know that someone else is going through this awful awful time, please keep in touch with the family, as I know how important that is, once the funeral is over life goes on for every one else and you feel lost and lonely. It doesn`t have to be much, just let them know they and their child are not forgotten. xxx

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eemie · 26/06/2006 00:49

triplets

Hello again

(((triplets)))

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triplets · 26/06/2006 20:25

Hi Eemie and thank you for the hug, I`m still around! A hug goes a long way.

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Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 26/06/2006 20:28

Does the school have a garden or anything? Ds1's school has a memorial garden, the PTA are in the process of doing it up, I think it's a lovely idea- maybe something to suggest?

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Mercy · 26/06/2006 20:57

a child in reception class at dd's school died a couple of years ago. There is a small garden at the front of the Foundation building - it now has a little water feature with a plaque dedicated to the child. I believe it was paid for via the PSA, the school and the child's family and friends.

The nursery and reception class have gardening lessons there and it's been a real focal point.

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Marina · 26/06/2006 21:05

Sending a card would be a lovely gesture as others have said, 2shoes.
Triplets, every time we look at Tom's flourishing crab-apple tree I think of Matthew and you planting the idea in our minds. You know he is not forgotten on here XXX

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onlyjoking9329 · 26/06/2006 21:14

do send a card i am sure it will mean a lot to the parents, a boy died at my girls SN school, it was his furernal on wednesday, they closed the school as all the staff wanted to attend, we will be having a smile award presented at presentation day as this boy was known for his smile.

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triplets · 26/06/2006 21:35

Hi Marina,
Thank you, and I am so glad your tree is flourishing, Matthews tree is really growing now, in fact I had to trim it back last week. It amazes me that tree, always always got something to give, I adore it, and I`m sure our boys do, lots of love Marina xxx

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2shoes · 26/06/2006 22:19

i did send a card. hopefully some kind of collection will be done.
I organised one when dd's friend died. just got the bench and plaque. dear little Tommy. We are just going to call it "tommy's bench"
I keep in touch with his mum by email. we didn't always see eye to eye. but who cares I just want to be there for her.
triplets you are so right the level of her grief is still so raw nearly 3 years on. she said that even seeing a child in a wheelchair sets her off.

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Christie · 26/06/2006 23:22

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2shoes · 28/06/2006 22:54

Christie omg how do you cope with it. I know I am going to have to become stronger/harder as this will not be the last time. I emailed a friend who's dd used to be at my dd's school and her friend had died.
I just find it so hard. I knwo that dd has no health worries but like all mums/parents I can't help but worry

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triplets · 29/06/2006 09:20

Hi,
I think that no matter what our own family circumstances are as parents we never stop worrying about our children, there is nothing more precious or as loved in our lives.

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Christie · 29/06/2006 21:16

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2shoes · 29/06/2006 21:33

i have to say I thought you would say that. I just can't imagine it would ever get any easier.

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MABS · 30/06/2006 18:50

so sorry 2shoes, i feel for you all.

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