Hi all,
We have had a very sad week. My lovely step father had a heart attack a week ago Sunday and died last Tuesday after spending 36 hours in hospital. I was with my mum the whole time from calling the ambulance to deciding to remove life support and waiting for him to finally pass in hospital. It was all truly horrific and shocking.
Since then family have been around - my siblings and step siblings and they have been dealing with lots of the practical stuff and funeral organising. My mum is struggling hugely, as you would expect.
My brain feels frazzled though. I seem to need to be in 3 places at once - I have 2 school aged children, childmind for 11 others and am the only family member local to my mum. My sister has come up to stay for a few days - thank god! but I am really concerned as to the levels of support my mum is going to need going forward and whether I can actually cope with this. She is ringing me up when she has run out of milk or needs a newspaper at the moment, which is fine but I'm worried that she is not trying to leave the house or do anything for herself. Should I gently encourage this, or just go with what she wants? It is all so shocking and raw at the moment that I don't really know what to do for the best. Also I can't completely abandon my own children in the way I have had to over the past week. DH has been fantastic, but he does have to go to work. My children are upset as they were close to their step-granddad and they need me too. ANy advice? thanks
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Runoutofideas · 03/09/2013 10:31
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