Early this year my dad's cousin died: he had little family and she meant a lot to him (he dis the appreciation) and I thought she was one of the most gracious kind and beautiful spirited women I have ever met. To my shame I was going through a very difficult pregnancy and time in myarriage and working til 9-11pm and didn't get around to writing to her husband or her daughter (who I hardly know but feel a strong link to).
in April a few days after my son was born, this daughter lost her son. he had life long sever disabilities and had been expected to die for some months. He had the same name as my newborn son, something I had not really clocked as they called him by a nickname and we use the full name. Again I have not made time to write, partly because I have been paralysed by my failure to wrote sooner about her mum. partly because I feel presumptuous mentioning my son by the same name, so to speak, even cruel to do so.
I still feel it would have been right to write. Is it too late to write to the husband? And if I wrote to my second cousin (?) should I refer to her mum and son on the same letter, and have you any advice about how to mention my son?
I am.deeply ashamed about my delay, but ask you to put that to one side and offer honest advice.
Thank you
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scarecrow22 · 07/07/2013 22:48
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