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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

Bereavement

Life After Death?

15 replies

Joanne101030 · 30/06/2013 12:44

Can anyone tell me if there is life after death as I have just lost my lovely mum and need to know that she is Ok?

Bit of a challenge I know but so many claim to have had spiritual experiences and with a collective effort I might find the evidence I need.
Thank you.

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WellHmmm · 30/06/2013 18:08

Everyone says something completely different, different religions, etc. There is no real answer-no-one knows for sure.
Just reassure yourself that your Mum has gone to a wonderful place and is happy. She will be ok.

bishboschone · 30/06/2013 18:33

I'm struggling With the same thing . My dad died 3 weeks ago and my brain can't work out where he is . It's like he has just vanished . I did see him just after he has died though not in the chapel of rest so i know he is dead but I have no idea where he is .im not religious as it just doesn't make sense to me but I tried to take comfort from the vicars words .. It's tough isn't it ?

madasa · 30/06/2013 19:54

I'm so sorry you have lost your mum x

I don't know the answer to your question.

I kind of feel that if there was something after death , my dear dad would have come to let me know.....there is no way he would leave me struggling and despairing as I am...I just don't know.

Take care of yourself x

PuggyMum · 30/06/2013 20:00

Sorry for your losses.

I lost my dad aged 18 and my mother in law very quickly last year.

I firmly believe they are with me, I feel their presence regularly. I can be cooking, out for a walk, in need I comfort.

I believe that people never truly leave us as they live in our hearts.

I too get sad. On my wedding day I felt the gaping hole left by my dad and my MIL was like a second mum to me. I miss them both terribly but it does get easier.

Don't be afraid to seek help from your doctor / counsellor. Grief can be debilitating.

Look after yourselves x x

PuggyMum · 30/06/2013 20:02

Madasa, I didn't feel my dad for a long time. He was very depressed and killed himself. I went through some tough times and also felt deserted.

Don't lose hope that he is with you.

tungthai · 30/06/2013 20:12

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I was typing a lengthy post but I have lost it. [grr]

My Dad died recently and I feel his presence all the time. I have received lots of "signs" and have complete faith that death is just the end of our life on earth. I wasn't religious before.

I have dreams where I receive messages too.

Take care it isn't easy.

OneStepCloser · 30/06/2013 20:28

So sorry for your loss, its so difficult and painful i know. I lost my wonderful parents many years ago when I was a teenager.

When I was pregnant a couple of years ago I locked a disc in my back and was in a great deal of pain, which resulted on me being literally laid up on the sofa from about four months. I was terribly low, in awful pain and spent many hours crying for it to be over. Anyway, one night after a really awful day I managed to get to sleep on the sofa, I suddenly work and my dad just walked into the room, clear as day, and put his arms out for a hug. I said to him, don't dad, I can't bear it your not really here and I can't bear not being able to feel you. He said, I am absolutely here, im always around you but at the moment you really need me. I sat up and he hugged me. Now, I absolutely swear I felt every bone in his chest, he was totally solid. He just hugged me and said it would be ok. I asked where mum was, he said she can't come back she feels to guilty for leaving you but she loves you and wishes she could.

I felt that hug for so long afterwards, even now tbh. I never told my sister about it but she told me not long ago that she sees dad a lot but not mum as dad told her she can't visit because of the guilt.

I know people will think I did dream it but I know it didn't, I know he was there.

I hope that helps you, I've felt him around a lot, that was the only time he came back in 15 years. I truly believe they go onto a better, no pain place, and I truly believe that I will meet them again. The universe is bigger than our little world, that I am absolutely sure.

tungthai · 30/06/2013 22:07

OneStepCloser - That is lovely.

Joanne101030 · 30/06/2013 22:10

Many many thanks for all your input. I only lost my mum on Friday so am still getting over it and coming to terms with her not being here . I have just finished reading a book called "The Afterlife Unveiled" by Stafford Betty who was a Harvard professor . It gave me some comfort and attempted t o explain exactly what is waiting for us when we pop off. I would recommend it.
I lost my dad almost exactly 2 years ago and had a dream in March that my dad came to me and said my mum would die on 30th June and that I should prepAre myself. He was 2 days out - and this was before I knew how ill she was. So I suppose I have had a big proof but all these things can be put down to other factors such as coincidence.
Please continue to let me have your stories as I am finding this truly comforting.
Thank you.

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t875 · 30/06/2013 22:45

I really know how you feel OP the shock of when i lost my mum suddenly to a massive stroke i was soo scared she was ok. I did have my friend who is a very close friend to my mum and she is a medium told me she was ok and she was with my nan (her mum who she lost when she was 10) but i still found that hard to believe..

I truly believe my mum is around me though, i also feel her presence.

On the night of her passing I heard my name called as I was making tea. I have had my name called a couple of times, in a way she would shorten it and only her did it. I have also had signs and strange things happen. I believe she is there for me to help me and my children/family and be there to comfort me\us. But even after a year it kills me at times she isnt here physically I miss her so much.

We have a thread here for the loss of a parent, please come and find us there we have all been there for each other seeing eachother through them tough times, and we will be with you too.

Will be thinking of you through these tough times ahead, surround your self with people who you feel comfortable with and take each minute, hour, day by day slowly And like someone else said if it all gets too much phone CRUSE they also helped me through some tough dark days.

It has got easier, but some days it polverises me and i hate she isnt with me.

Take care ((hugs)) to you xx

t875 · 30/06/2013 22:46

Please pm if you need a chat, it is such a hard time and my thoughts are with you xx

Joanne101030 · 01/07/2013 07:20

T875 - thank you for sharing this with me and I am so sorry for your loss too. I will have a look at the links you suggest.
XxX

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madasa · 02/07/2013 16:08

PuggyMum thank you for your kind words. So so sorry for the loss of your dad.

Joanne still thinking of you and hoping that you are as 'ok' as you can be x

fromparistoberlin · 02/07/2013 16:10

I beleive in heaven, and that its better than here for sure

now maybe its not what I imagine, but I beleive that spirits move on, and up

that story is gorgeous onestep

my condolances OP x

lilyliz · 01/08/2013 20:28

my mum died xmas day 32 yrs ago I started back work on 4 jan and she appeared across the road from me,waved smiled and was gone,I like to think it was her way of telling me she was ok.Also after my DH died 3yrs ago the smell of lynx in the bedroom could have knocked me over,he used to really go overboard spraying it around so that was a comfort to me to

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