Could do with some hand-holding please?

(481 Posts)
ChubbyKitty Mon 20-May-13 06:32:04

Horrific accident in my parents house. Mum and grandad have both gone, dad is stable, and only found one of three cats.

I'm 21, I did not expect to lose my mum this soon at all. It hasn't even sunk in properly yet, and I know when it does I will be completely destroyed. What do I even dosad

Iamaslummymummy Mon 20-May-13 06:38:57

I'm so so sorry for your awful losses sad

NoBloodyMore Mon 20-May-13 06:42:05

I'm so sorry for your loss, the accident sounds horrific and I hope your Dad is ok.

Handholding here, big hugs xx

Iamaslummymummy Mon 20-May-13 06:43:30

Do you want to talk about it?

YoniMatopoeia Mon 20-May-13 06:51:20

I'm here and will hold your hand, and hold you in my thoughts.

CrystalDeCanter Mon 20-May-13 06:53:34

Oh my goodness, you poor girl, what a terrible thing to happen. Here's a hand to hold.

I'm so very sorry for loss of your mum and grandad. How awful. sad

ChubbyKitty Mon 20-May-13 06:54:11

Hey guys thanks for replies. I do and I don't iyswim? I have a lot of stuff to chew over and I feel I need to stay strong for the rest of the family.
Get to see my dad today. My house is only one street away and it was just...indescribable. I keep playing it all over and wondering.

EMS23 Mon 20-May-13 06:59:34

Here to handhold, I am so sorry for your sudden losses. X

DonnyOsmondsTeeth Mon 20-May-13 07:02:01

Oh god, so sorry to hear this.

YoniMatopoeia Mon 20-May-13 07:33:11

If you need to chew stuff over this is a great place to vent. We will be here for you.

I hope all is ok when you see your dad.

NeverBeenToMe Mon 20-May-13 07:39:38

Sending you strength and hugs at this sad time. You're younger than my eldest daughter - I can't imagine her having to cope in such an awful situation. Keep posting on here - some posters have found it helps to talk about memories etc. Hugs x

MrsWolowitz Mon 20-May-13 07:46:13

I'm so sorry for your losses sad

<holds hand>

ChubbyKitty Mon 20-May-13 07:50:25

Hey again. And thank you, again. Will post a little more later today, got a few things to get sorted first. Paramedics advised I see a doctor for shock, trauma etc. and need to get cat back to my house and hopefully find the others and know one way or another. And need to get family home etc.

Will keep you posted.

Dejected Mon 20-May-13 07:55:45

I'm so sorry for your loss. Definitely see the doctor and ask if you can be referred to a specialist counsellor too. It may help in the long term.

whattodoo Mon 20-May-13 07:58:35

I'm so sorry for your loss. Is anyone with you?
I hope your father is improving.

BreeVanDerTramp Mon 20-May-13 08:08:55

This sounds unimaginable, so sorry for the loss of your mum and grandad. Hope your dad improves soon. You will be in utter shock.

Who do you have who can just be with you today?

telsa Mon 20-May-13 08:57:46

Unimaginable. I wish you all the best....this will take time to sink in. Do not feel that you MUST remain strong for everyone else though. You must be looked after too. Take care.

IncogKNEEto Mon 20-May-13 10:33:18

I am so sorry to hear of your tragic losses. Take care of yourself too, you must be in shock, the paramedic was right, good idea to see Dr yourself. I hope you find your cats, and that your Dad makes a good recovery. Will be thinking of you xx

BreeVanDerTramp Mon 20-May-13 15:59:24

Hi kitty just checking in offer hugs, and hoping you are bring looked after. Thoughts and prayers are with you and praying for your dads recovery.

ChasingStaplers Mon 20-May-13 17:38:07

So sorry for your losses.
Holding your hand and hoping your dad is improving.
Is there anyone who can be there with you? Xxx

LegoAcupuncture Mon 20-May-13 17:48:59

Oh Chubby how awful. I'm so sorry flowers

How is your dad doing?

ChubbyKitty Tue 21-May-13 02:03:53

Hi guys. Plenty of people around, all want to stay with me but doctor has given me sleeping pills and I only really want DP at night so I can get as normal a nights sleep as possible.

Night night and thank you!!

karinmaria Tue 21-May-13 04:05:17

Hope you managed to get some sleep. I'm so sorry for your loss, what an awful thing for you to be going through.

Wanted to reach out and hand hold. I lost my mum earlier this year and four months on I'm not sure if I'm coming to terms with it yet.

My advice, for what it's worth, is to put no pressure on yourself to feel ok or upset etc. It's perfectly normal to feel numb, to want to sleep through the shock, to cry uncontrollably or not at all. Lean on your DP and friends and take each day as it comes. The funeral arrangements are actually a good distraction as they'll keep you busy for couple of days/weeks.

Thinking of you and your family. I really hope your dad recovers and you find your other cats

ssd Tue 21-May-13 08:20:11

just wanted to lend support too, op

hope your dad pulls through

think I might have seen this on the news?? if so, am so so sorry, absolute tragedy sad

xxx

Chubby.

If it is the story I have seen on the news it is a shocking tragedy. Absolutely shocking.

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