Its been a year since i said goodbye to my baby who was born at 10.36pm on 20th may 05. she was only 23 weeks gestation, i went into preterm labour and had a rescue cervical stitch but a few days later my membranes ruptured and my stitch was removed and i had a 12 hour labour and gave birth to my baby who only lived a minute or so, never breathed although tried hard to:(
she was not resusitated because only 24+ weeks is viable in this country. I begged drs to resusitate but they said no. i wish now i had offered to pay- i would have paid anything for my baby to be given a chance at life. I really would not have cared if she had cerebal palsy or worse i really just wanted her to have a life or a chance at life.
she was a big baby as people have talked to me about babys at that gestation fitting into their hand but my baby was the length of my thigh and did not fit into even my dh's hand.
we had a funeral and she was cremated since then her ashes have been at home with me. we have had a memorial tree for ages and recently bought a pot and we potted the tree and i decorated the pot with mosaics and stuff. im not ready to bury her ashes yet.
i can't believe its been a year, i still miss my baby so much, i am pg again but i still think of my baby girl every day.
my dh couldn't remember what time she was born or even what date the funeral was or anything, it upset me, i am the only person. friends and family have all forgotton that she did exist. not even a phone call:(
my friends even talk about the baby im pg with now as being my 3rd baby when its my forth, i go along with it all the time for an easy life but im screaming for someone other than me to reconise that she did exist and was real.
anyway just wanted to tell someone all this thanks MN for listening and keeping me sane xxxxxxx
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slinkstah · 21/05/2006 01:17
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