I don't want to post in too much detail because I know someone on here irl and don't want to out myself.
My friend lost her DC today. It was totally out of the blue, and she is obviously completely shattered by it.
My problem is that since the death of my DSD, when my Mum was hurt or upset by some of the things a few (probably well meaning but awkward) people said to her in the aftermath I have been utterly shit in my responses to news like this because I'm paralysed by fear of getting it wrong.
I've known her for quite a while to say hi too, and more recently spent some more time with her socially and we get on really well, and I just want to say the right thing and support her in whichever way I can. I did try and say that today but it came out awkward and wrong and I don't want to add to her grief by being a prat. I kind of say what I think, wanting to be open and caring but it comes out all wrong in emotional situations.
I know that there is nothing i can say or do to make it ok. She has lost her son. Her world will never be the same...and I totally get that. I will be there for her all the way, ESP in weeks and months and years to come when most (foolish) people will be expecting her to 'get back to normal'. I will always listen and talk to her about him. Will be there if she wants to cry, and all the rest....but what should I be saying or doing now, when it's so raw. Do I steer clear to let her grieve with family? I see her every day, how do I handle seeing her next time?
I realise this sounds very me, me, me, but it's honestly just a request to help her and try and be there if she needs.
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Friends DS has died. I am stupidly unable to say the right thing, please, how do I help her?
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OrWellyAnn · 24/04/2013 22:13
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