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pinkhearts · 10/05/2006 12:16

I stumbled across this site about two weeks ago when I had a missed miscarriage. It has been such a wonderful site to visit and read about all the support you ladies give each other.

I went for my 12 week scan and was told that the baby's heart had stopped beating. What an awful experience especially since I was on my own. Especially as I had a scan 2 weeks earlier and everything was OK. I had to wait all weekend as my obs. was out of town and went in for a D & C on the Monday night. My DH had to be out of town on business so my DM flew into town to hold my hand. I was very lucky as the hospital staff were nothing but supportive - I couldn't of asked for nicer staff they were even great with my DM.

The hardest part telling my 4.5 year old DS was so upset. He crying as he has desperately been asking for a DS for the last 18 months. I told him that a special angel was up in heaven looking after him. He has asked a couple of times since about "our baby" but seems to have grasped the idea.

I felt so at peace reading other stories and messages as most of my friends have no idea of what to say. I just want to hear 'I am sorry about your loss" and not go on about how it is all for the best etc. At least I can have a good cry when I am on this site and feel that other people are feeling what I am feeling.

I guess it is now a waiting game for my system to kick back in and keep myself busy until we can TTC.

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pinkhearts · 10/05/2006 12:18

I stumbled across this site about two weeks ago when I had a missed miscarriage. It has been such a wonderful site to visit and read about all the support you ladies give each other.

I went for my 12 week scan and was told that the baby's heart had stopped beating. What an awful experience especially since I was on my own. Especially as I had a scan 2 weeks earlier and everything was OK. I had to wait all weekend as my obs. was out of town and went in for a D & C on the Monday night. My DH had to be out of town on business so my DM flew into town to hold my hand. I was very lucky as the hospital staff were nothing but supportive - I couldn't of asked for nicer staff they were even great with my DM.

The hardest part telling my 4.5 year old DS was so upset. He crying as he has desperately been asking for a DS for the last 18 months. I told him that a special angel was up in heaven looking after him. He has asked a couple of times since about "our baby" but seems to have grasped the idea.

I felt so at peace reading other stories and messages as most of my friends have no idea of what to say. I just want to hear 'I am sorry about your loss" and not go on about how it is all for the best etc. At least I can have a good cry when I am on this site and feel that other people are feeling what I am feeling.

I guess it is now a waiting game for my system to kick back in and keep myself busy until we can TTC.

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toadstool · 10/05/2006 21:06

Hi pinkhearts, I'm very sorry you had such an upsetting loss. My DD, aged about the same, was very upset too, and does keep asking about the baby sister she was expecting (I mc'ed at 11 weeks 2 weeks ago). But I've found that if I keep telling her that the baby hasn't been able to stay with us, she accepts it. She drew a picture of 'my family' and it had 'my baby sister who is born' in it, somewhere in a corner. I think that's a really good sign. Look after yourself. I've found MN a great support too. Though I've also been amazed at how many women I know at work who have mc'ed and never spoken about it until now.

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