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my fil is dying, my mum and dad died 2 years ago, its bringing it all back

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birdinatent · 12/03/2013 00:40

Nothing much else to say, dh is staying with his mum and dad, so he can help if his dad needs to get out of bed in the night. His mum is upset if the nurses give too much medication and make my fil to spaced out, so we are all supporting her in an effort to make sure this doesnt happen. Trouble is my mum died nearly 2 years ago, in a hospice, from the same cancer that is killing my fil, and I am feeling bad now that I let them give her loads of drugs, and that she was really spaced out for the last few days. At the time I was really grateful that she had a "good death", now I'm scared I made a mistake

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 12/03/2013 00:44

Please, please don't look back and question yourself. You made the best decision you could at the time, with all the influences and information you had available to you. You really did.

I am so very sorry for your loss and fir your current situation.

I wish you and your family strength.

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birdinatent · 12/03/2013 00:48

thankyou

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BiscuitsandBaileys · 12/03/2013 10:40

Agree with Chaos
I did that a lot, going over and over things thinking what I could have done differently.
You didn't make any mistakes, you did the best you could have for your mum xx

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frostyfingers · 12/03/2013 12:03

What you did at the time was right for you and your Mum. What your MIL and FIL want is right for them now. Don't give yourself a hard time - look after yourself and your DH.

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