I've just miscarried at 11 weeks. I started bleeding on Monday and had a scan which confirmed the baby had died around a week ago. I went to the EPAU yesterday for another scan which confirmed the result, and was told to stay in as I was bleeding heavily. I basically begged them to give me an ERPC as I couldn't cope with having everything come away naturally. They nodded and then basically ignored me. I then had about 4 hours of incredibly painful contractions while they told me that I was on the priority list for theatre, and then off it, then on again, etc etc. Then it all came away on its own and was the most horrible experience I've ever had. Not one person said to me the entire day that they were sorry about what was happening - people just came in and out without introducing themselves or just talked over me. The only time I got any attention was when I was pinned to the bed as they 'delivered' the fetus and placenta. I was hysterical and they just kept telling me to relax - can you believe it?
I feel completely traumatised by the experience and so so angry with the staff for being so utterly insensitive. I realise that a miscarriage before 12 weeks is very common and they see it all the time, but this is my body, my baby and my distress - and not even a sympathetic pat on the shoulder. Has anyone had a similar experience?
Sorry to rant for ages ...
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2boys2cats · 04/05/2006 21:08
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