5 months pregnant and my fiance has just passed away

(109 Posts)
Soppykiss Sat 02-Feb-13 23:56:36

My fiance died two weeks ago and I am just over 5 months. He was diagnosed with cancer the same day I found out I was pregnant. I just don't know if I can do this without him. I've not bought anything for the baby and I really don't know how I feel right now. I'm functioning because I know he would have wanted me to be strong and look after the baby but it's hard.

Congrats to you Soppy on the arrival of baby Yasmin.

I know just how much you will love her, your heart is FULL of love, you can tell by the wonderful way you have described Jon.

listenwatchreadshare Tue 13-Aug-13 19:46:23

DH passed away when my DDs were 3 and 5, which is coming up to 10 years ago now.
It's been really hard. Especially the first two years of bereavement, which were just confused shock. I found the loneliness the hardest - the feeling that no-one really understands how it feels. I was also far too hard on myself, desperate to have a "normal" life and carry on as if nothing bad had happened to me at all.
I'd definitely give myself lots of advice on how to do things differently now. But I guess if I hadn't had that experience, I wouldn't know... So it was only by going through it and making mistakes that I could find out. Such is life.
We all deal with things in different ways, so I can't assume to give you any advice, but if you want to ask me anything or PM me, please feel free.
Wishing you and your DD lots of joy and happiness together - I know she will be extra precious to you.

ChimeForChange Tue 13-Aug-13 19:07:02

Congratulations SOPPY - what a big girl!

Beautiful name, I hope she brings you and Jon's family such joy, he lives on through her.

Were you able to register Jon as her father?

Xx

everlong Sun 11-Aug-13 20:26:59

Oh that's such la lovely post.
Congratulations on your beautiful daughter. A lovely unique name too.

BCBG Sat 10-Aug-13 21:18:33

Congratulations to you, and to Jon, and hello to Yasmin xx

honey86 Fri 09-Aug-13 21:47:57

sorry you lost your dp, i lost my dp at five months preg too... was the hardest time of my life but it eventually made me a stronger wiser person. big congrats on baby thanksthanks

something2say Fri 09-Aug-13 18:41:02

Congratulations darling. I actually thought of you the other day. So pleased your baby has arrived x

Childcareisscary Thu 08-Aug-13 02:09:04

Congratulations. I can't begin to imagine your joy after such a tough time. Enjoy her.

ClartyCarol Thu 08-Aug-13 01:57:40

Congratulations, have just read all of this thread - so sad but also joyful - enjoy yours and Jon's baby girl. Wishing you much strength, courage and happy times ahead.

NatashaBee Thu 08-Aug-13 01:38:12

How lovelythanks congratulations!

Mumrose Thu 08-Aug-13 01:35:19

Congratulations!Stay strong for your lil girl.May she bring lots of joy in your life and be a wonderful reminder of your partnerthanks

Doha Wed 07-Aug-13 23:49:23

Such a sad thread but what a wonderful update.

Hello to baby Yasmin from all her MN aunties.

Congratulations soppy Jon will be smiling on you both from above and cheering you on

5madthings Wed 07-Aug-13 22:29:20

welcome to the world yasmin...not jasmin, sorry auto correct!

5madthings Wed 07-Aug-13 22:28:08

lovely update, congratulations on the birth of your daughter and welcome to the world not so little Jasmin!

i am sure this time will be bitter sweet but i hope you are enjoying the precious newborn momemts, much love to you xx

ChippingInHopHopHop Wed 07-Aug-13 22:21:29

Congratulations smile It's lovely you had chosen her name together.

She certainly was a whopper shock

How are you doing?

I've just found this thread. So sorry for the loss of Jon but many congratulations on the birth of Yasmin and how wonderful to give her her daddy's initials as her middle name. I hope this is the beginning of a happy time in your life. Sending much love xx

TwentyTinyToes Sun 04-Aug-13 21:57:47

Congratulations in the birth of your daughter and what a beautiful name! I remember reading your thread with tears in my eyes, i wondered how you were doing, thank you for updating. Sending you much love. X

bluestar2 Sun 04-Aug-13 20:46:29

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter. What a whopping weight. I hope as she grows and develops her own personality you will get to see the little traits of her daddy bloom in her and this brings you joy in your terribly sad times. Well done for getting to this point x

MoreThanWords Sat 03-Aug-13 23:19:18

Congratulations! Wishing you much happiness in this chapter of your life xx

sydlexic Sat 03-Aug-13 23:15:31

Congratulations, I hope she brings you much joy.

beginnings Sat 03-Aug-13 23:00:53

Soppy I've only just found your thread but wanted to say many many congratulations. I hope you have lots of support as you get to know Yasmin and watch her grow into a beautiful beautiful girl.

scarlettsmummy2 Sat 03-Aug-13 22:58:15

Congratulations, that's a really lovely name. I bet her daddy will be watching down beaming with pride. Hugs.

Soppykiss Sat 03-Aug-13 22:55:51

I know it's a little late but I thought I would update my post... I had a little girl, she was born 13 days over due. Thankfully Jon and I had chosen a girl's name, which was Yasmin. I've given Yasmin Jon's initials as her middle name, which is JP. I like the fact that it's rather unusual, when people ask her about her middle name she can always reference her daddy. She is absolutely amazing. I ended up having a c section, as her head wasn't in the right position and she weighed a whopping 11lbs 12oz.

Owllady Mon 25-Mar-13 18:33:17

oh sweetheart, i am so sorry but you are being so very brave x

Your memory of him wont fade either, it will always stay the same. I haven't lost a partner but a sister and I think of her every day, life goes on, but it doesn't mean you forget someone. I even watch stuff on tv and think she would like it iykwim, even now!

It's great people are thinking of you both. Do look afetr yourself

everlong Mon 25-Mar-13 18:26:26

Ah soppykiss thank you for updating. What a beautiful post. Your love for Jon is huge! It jumps out.
I'm so sorry he's not here anymore.. but his memory will live on within you and yours and Jon's baby. Always.

He sounds like an amazing man that was well thought of and loved by many.

Wishing you lots of love and peace in the coming months in the run up to the birth. X

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