We have a good friend in the US who has been battling with Melanoma for the last 2 and a half years; she and my son are just soooo close.
She's unmarried, no kids, but she and DS bonded when he was about 3 and they've been close ever since. He even went out to see her for a week by himself this summer. I guess she's a rather 'active grandma' type - or she was. He thinks that she's just wonderful. He loves her to bits.
I've had an email from a friend who is basically saying that the treatment isn't working any more, and that she has chosen to stop any more intervention. I have no idea how long she has with us. I know that she struggles to eat, now - but is still at home.
I cannot decide what to do; DS knows that she has cancer... but should I tell DS all the info, tell him nothing much but indicate that she's not long for this world, or get on the next flight out with him and go and see her?
If I take the latter option, I'm not sure if I'll hold it together. DH has said I must do what I think is right - by all means go and see her now if we want to - but don't waste money on going to her funeral. (Typical black and white male approach...)
I'm so upset - I've lost the ability to reason.
Any thoughts appreciated.
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Good Friend in the US about to die. DS (14) will be heartbroken - WWYD?
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IDismyname · 05/12/2012 10:06
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