My Mum has just died!

(43 Posts)
GhoulwiththeFrothyCurl Fri 02-Nov-12 20:02:40

Nothing else to say really, just that.

Sparklingbrook Fri 02-Nov-12 20:03:27

Oh Ghoul. I am so sorry, Are you ok, are you on your own?

PoppadomPreach Fri 02-Nov-12 20:04:22

I am so sorry to hear that.

Was it a sudden death, or had she been ill for a while?

Either way, it is a very, very hard thing to cope with (speaking from experience). But you will cope.

missymoomoomee Fri 02-Nov-12 20:04:23

Ghoul I am so so sorry. Have you got someone with you?

beachyhead Fri 02-Nov-12 20:04:31

Oh I'm so sorry......It's such a horrid feeling, I know.

ISingSoprano Fri 02-Nov-12 20:05:11

I am really sorry - was this sudden? Do you have family or friends to support you?

GhoulwiththeFrothyCurl Fri 02-Nov-12 20:06:34

Should have changed my name back before posting. My DH is here. We had just driven back after visiting her in hospital, then I had the call telling me. DH was out at the time, but he has now returned.

Had to ring her sister to tell her, which was horrible. Don't want to tell our sons until tomorrow. So sad. Now have no parents left.

Portofino Fri 02-Nov-12 20:06:48

So sorry to hear this. sad Like the others said...have you got someone to be with you?

Choufleur Fri 02-Nov-12 20:07:41

So sorry. My mum died recently - let anyone help who offers and you want around. Do whatever you feel is right for you and your family.

MikeLitoris Fri 02-Nov-12 20:07:57

sad

So sorry to hear this ghoul.

So sorry for you. Won't say I know how you feel because My mum died when I was 4... So I never really knew her to miss but 23 years on i still wish she was here... sad

Go easy on yourself xxx

GhoulwiththeFrothyCurl Fri 02-Nov-12 20:08:41

She was in her eighties and was very fit and well up to about a year ago. Then she simply decided that she had had enough and stopped eating. She lost loads of weight since Christmas, got worse and worse and then refused any intervention when she was emitted to hospital. My siblings all rallied around and tried to help her, but she was adamant. Feel so upset that we were not enough to keep her happy and with us.

weegiemum Fri 02-Nov-12 20:09:43

So sorry to hear this xx

I'm so sorry.
If u want to chat to others who have been through the same, join is on the bereavement thread... I can't link - on my phone - but we have all lost our Mums. It's a very caring place where you'll be welcomed.

GhoulwiththeFrothyCurl Fri 02-Nov-12 20:13:00

Thanks everyone, you are all very kind x

myflabberisgasted Fri 02-Nov-12 20:15:00

I'm so, so sorry ghoul.

My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time sad xx

morethanpotatoprints Fri 02-Nov-12 20:16:09

I'm so sorry for you. Please take time and do whats best for you. Please don't think you weren't enough for her.
My parents both died within 6 months of each other, I know how you feel.
Sending you virtual hugs sad

missymoomoomee Fri 02-Nov-12 20:16:26

Ghoul please don't think that you weren't enough to keep her happy, you will torture yourself thinking like that. sad

tschiffely Fri 02-Nov-12 20:16:35

thinking of you and yours, lighting a candle for your mum x

ChippingInLovesAutumn Fri 02-Nov-12 20:17:58

Ghoul - I am so very sorry. It must be really hard to accept that this was a choice she made sad I'm sure it's no reflection on how much she loved you, just that in her 80s she was a bit tired of life & possibly no longer enjoying a great quality of life. Do you get on well with your siblings? Big hugs x

GhoulwiththeFrothyCurl Fri 02-Nov-12 20:18:38

It's so difficult to understand when she wasn't actually physically ill. DHs Mum battled for years in terrible pain and never gave up like this. I feel as if she didn't want me any more. Daft I know. I am in my fifties and should know better!

GhoulwiththeFrothyCurl Fri 02-Nov-12 20:19:17

One good thing that has come out of all this is that my siblings have become much closer.

TidyDancer Fri 02-Nov-12 20:19:20

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

Thoughts with you. x

chimchar Fri 02-Nov-12 20:21:17

So sorry to hear about your mum.

I was able to take a lot of comfort from posters here when I lost my mum very suddenly. I hope you can do the same.

Thinking of you x

GhoulwiththeFrothyCurl Fri 02-Nov-12 20:23:01

Thank you all, it is wonderful how total strangers can be so kind and helpful.

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