Hi. My father had early onset Alzheimers disease. I had no contact with him, he was in a residential home. Have had no contact since he and my mum divorced when I was about 5.
I used to walk past him in the street, he obviously did not know me, I knew him from photos.
Anyway, I got a text yesterday from DB saying he died in the night on Sunday, care staff found him Monday morning.
Initially I was a little shaky. I guess from the suddenness of his death? My DB has asked if I shall go to the funeral. I thought I might, but I have just been looking at some old photo's I had been getting ready to send to DB, and have realised that I didn't care about him when he was alive, why should I now.
I really don't know what to do. There is likely to be few people at the funeral, his brother and family, and probably a member of staff from the home.
Without meaning to sound awful, I don't really want to get into conversation with his family, don't want them to think I care that much. But I don't want to regret not going.
I'm sorry if this sounds insensitive, and I do know how devastating it is to lose parents, having lost my mum and step dad.
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oneandnomore · 23/10/2012 23:00
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