when i was 7 weeks pregnant,i started to bleed.after being told by the emergency doctor to let nature take its course,i spent what felt like the longest weekend of my life worrying.on the monday i went into hospital for a scan.i laid there facing my dh,i didnt want to see the screen.the lady doing the scan was lovely,and asked me how many weeks i thought i was.i told her 7.for a brief moment i thought maybe i was wrong,and that i wasnt at all pregnant (despite doing 5 tests!!)she told me i was almost 13 weeks pregnant,and told me to look at the screen.there,with a beating heart was my baby.my heart leapt and i started crying with relief.she took the internal scan out of me and put one on my belly.as she moved it around,i saw something to the side of my baby.i asked what it was,and she gave me a pityful look,stopped the scan and told me to go to the ward to see the doctor.my dh and i went to the ward,and the doctor came in,looked at the papers the scan lady had given us,and gave me the same pityful look.he told me that i had been carrying twins,but one had died.all i kept asking was 'is the baby ok'.it just didnt sink in.i had a really bad pregnancy (i had spd)and when my dd was born,i felt just so lucky to have such a beautiful healthy baby.when she was 2 weeks old,we had her christened.the vicar said a prayer and blessing for our lost baby.when dd was 6 weeks old we got the next big shock,she was diagnosed with cf.she is now 18 months,but i just cant stop thinking about her twin.we never knew if it was a boy or a girl.all we got told was that it was in a seperate sac and that dd would more than likely be ok.i know its 18 months ago,but i cant stop thinking about him or her.i saw the vicar that christened dd the other day,and she said i maybe feel like this because i didnt get to grieve for the baby.i just concentrated on dd.will i ever stop feeling so low?dh said we could have another baby,but i think i'd still 'miss' dd's twin.and my other worry would be that it would happen again (also theres the cf risk).i know i'm not the only one that has gone through this,but i havent spoken to anyone about it or how i feel.i even find myself avoiding my pregnant friends.someone help,please
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stephanie21 · 06/02/2006 14:03
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