What kind of card should i send

[MrsBubsDeVere]

A close friend of mine lost her baby in the early hours of the morning, she was nearly 12weeks.

She lives quite a way from me and getting to go and see her will be impossible.

I want to send her a card, but, don't know whether to send a 'with sympathy' or a 'thinking of you both' card.

What do think?

[merrySOAPBOXingday]

Thinking of you would be best I think in the circumstances. You can then tailor it to the circumstances with your own message!

Poor them, what a horrid time for this to happen - horrid anyway, but especially on christmas eve!

[MrsBubsDeVere]

Thanks soapbox, i have arranged for one to be sent day after boxing day. I am heartbroken for her and wish there was something i could do,i don't drive, and its 10 hours on a bus, she has been having problems for a short while.

It's put a dampner on my mood now, we haven't know each other that long, but we have become quite close

[gravity]

mrsbubsdevere, i was pregnant with my dd when a close friend's dw was also pregnant, we were actually due on the same day also.
she lost baby at 10 weeks, about two weeks after slipping over at her wedding.
i felt awful because i was still pregannt and she wasnt.
it terrified me to pick up the phone and call her after her dh told my dh. they were scared to tell me too. i was just scared i wouldnt have the right words.
i finally did, after about an hour of battling with myself what to say. I never said i was sorry. I didnt ask how she was. I was honest, i told her i was scared to call her for my above reason and was there anything at all i could do for her. it broke the ice and she thanked me for being the first person not to ask if she was ok, not to say i was sorry. she said thats why she called me her friend.
i would def go with the thinking of you card. you cant be "there" with her physically but you can be "there" for her if she needs and wants to talk.
take care x