I am back for more advise as you were all so helpful and kind when I posted about my mum dying of cancer in September.
I am finding it impossible to talk or think about my mum without bursting into tears, I am still crying at some point every day and my main worry is that if I still feel this bad then how is my dad coping?
My dad and I are very alike, he seems fine whenever I speak to him as long as he is busy. Me, my husband and children went to his house last weekend for Sunday dinner, my sister and her boyfriend still live with him, since my sister moved back home to care for mum when she became ill.
All was fine as usual until my dad mentioned what we were doing at christmas, he could not get his words out and ate the rest of his dinner with tears running down his face.
My mum and dad were the closest couple I have ever known. They did everything together, and were so in love even after more than 30 years of marraige.
I spoke to him last night on the phone and tried to ask him how he was, without getting upset myself, he choked up again and just said what has he got to look forward to. My mum was his whole life, he said he thinks about her every minute of the day.
How is he ever going to move on, nothing is ever going to make it alright as nothing can bring my mum back. What can I say or do to help him? If I were in his situation I can't see how I would carry on.
I'm sorry to waffle on but I can't say these things outloud to anyone as the words just wont come out.
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alfiesmum · 12/12/2005 16:16
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