Anyone Benefitted From Seeing a Medium After Loss of Loved One?

[Thirtysix]

I lost my Mum suddenly at the age of 61 in March this year-exactly a month before my DD was born.My Mum never even got so see my scan pictures but she did know I was pregnant.
I am still really struggling with this and it seems to have got worse now I have gone back to work-probably a coincidence.
Until DD was born (she stopped growing so was given C section) I felt that somehow my Mum was "around" but not now.
I feel terible guilt about not doing more when she was in hospital and she was never meant to die.I want her to know I did everything I could and I need to know she is ok.

I just wonderd if anyone had a positive experience of a medium,if they could recommend anyone or alternatively- a bad experience.
I really don't knwo where to start but feel I need to do SOMETHING>

[doormat]

thirtysix there are some good ones out there but there are also ones just out for the money
I will CAT you a name for one that if you would like, he was so spot on, he is also on the tv and helps with police investigations.
I seen him back in Jan, no specific reason,
mediums, clairovoyants are like chocs to me, just got to try them all out
He wasnt interested in me but wanted to speak to dh, told dh loads of stuff about his dad, I overheard it and he was amazing.
Just be careful lots of charlatans
Try and go to a spiritualist church also, sometimes these can be very helpful.

[HuggyBear]

Sorry for your loss ThritySix xxxx

[Mosschops30]

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[Octobernow]

I think statistics show that the majority of bereaved people go to see a medium/pyschic within two years of the death of the person they are trying to contact. That's because it is the most vulnerable time when we most need answers and can't really take in that the person we knew so well and loved very much has simply disappeared.

I would tread very carefully, thirty six. I saw a medium as part of a TV documentary a while ago. I was very sceptical (that's why they wanted me to take part - I was one of a group whose views ranged widely) and although I didn't believe in it I found myself desperate to pick up on anything that might show my mum and dad were in contact. (My mum also died while I was pg)

The 'reading' itself was a good one, but as part of the programme I saw some shockingly exploitative people making a mint out of the grief of others.

My advice would be to go for bereavement counselling first.

I didn't grieve properly for my mum as I thought negative feelings would hurt my unborn baby. I know it sounds weird. My mother was pregnant with me when her mother died and I was born with a dangerous rare condition which my mother attributed to her stress over nursing my dying grandma. Probably wrongly, I'm sure.

You have had a seriously shocking year, by the sound of it - losing your mum, having a baby and now returning to your previous world of work. I think that is what is unsettling you atm. Don't let a charlatan rip you off because you are vulnerable.

[Thirtysix]

Thank you all for your messages.
Door mat-please CAT me the details then at least I can decide if and when the time is right.

Fortunately I have always been interested in mediums/clairvoyants,as was my Mum which is why I think I need to see one.


Anyway,thank you again for your kind messages.

[Pol25]

Hey there thirtysix,

My mum died when I was twenty one and she died on the wednesday and on the following sunday my middle sis (elder) found out she was preg. She had been trying for years and years but to no avail and my mum always wished she could have a baby as she knew what a wonderful mum she would be. It is so sad that my mum never got to meet her children, now she has three a 3yr old and two 2yr olds (twins) who are all wonderful.
The annoying thing that still makes me cross is my eldest sis has 4 children and 2 of those have children themselves now and she does not care for them yet my mum was alive to see them grow, see my sis get married etc but mot my middle sis or me.
I am bitter that she didn't know my partner or my d and i'm sad for my sis too.
We have seen some mediums, more out of curiosity and each one has mentioned my mum when they knew nothing about me- there were no probing q's or anything. They knew she died from breast cancer which spread to the liver too. It has given me some comfort but did upset me too