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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

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Bereavement

Baby died through neglect at Hospital - Any advice???

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HellyBelly · 17/10/2005 12:51

I need some advice for a friend.....

I don't have all the details at this stage so please bear with me.

Her best friend tried for a baby for 4 years, finally conceived, healthy baby through pregnancy and labour but complications at the end. The baby struggled as choked at the end of the labour/during delivery. My ds and others I know had one of those things hooked into his scalp to monitor his heartrate through the delivery - this never happened with this lady. All I know is that everything was fine and then the baby choked and wasn't dealt with properly. The baby was put on life support and then died at the weekend (delivery was Thurs or Fri).

The 2 midwife's in charge have been dismissed but I think this lady may want to take further action.

I remember seeing a thread some time ago when someone was fighting the hospital for neglect. Does anyone have any phone numbers, addresses etc. for where this can been taken further?

Any help would be much appreciated.

Thanks

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RottenRhubarb · 17/10/2005 12:54

Sounds awful! I seem to remember a thread along these lines, but I cannot think what it was called or who started it - sorry.

Your friend must be devastated!

rickman · 17/10/2005 12:56

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HellyBelly · 17/10/2005 12:59

I don't know the lady this happened to (still brought a tear to my eye though!) but yes, her best friend (my friend) was soooo upset this morning (I look after her children). I gave her a big hug and said I'd see what I can find out on mumsnet but there's nothing else I could do .

Hopefully someone will see this and be able to give some advice.

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HellyBelly · 17/10/2005 13:00

Thanks rickman, will do!

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cupcakes · 17/10/2005 13:03

That's terrible. When ds was born he had the scratch thing on his scalp which is how they knew he was in distress and had to do the c-section.

HellyBelly · 17/10/2005 13:38

Yeah, not sure if standard practice but as ds was having a bit of a hard time during labour, they put that on so they would know if they needed to intervene. Still, one thing I do know is that the midwife's obviously didn't do their job properly as they wouldn't have been sacked otherwise!

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lynny70 · 17/10/2005 14:04

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HellyBelly · 17/10/2005 14:12

Good point lynny70, just presumed that they were sacked as my friend said they were 'dismissed' but I suppose that might not be the case.

My friend knows I use mumsnet and as I mentioned someone else on here had been fighting the hospital, I said I'd find out what I could. I don't think my friend is going to do anything with the information straight away, just hold onto it and pass on if required when she thinks it's the right time.

Thanks

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LIZS · 17/10/2005 14:20

So sorry to hear of this tragedy. It is really nice of you to want to help out and find support for the bereaved mum. Makes me very grateful for having a fit and well ds.

He had heart decelerations, picked up on the external trace, during labour with each contraction, so was in distress. The midwives argued that they wanted to break my waters to put a scalp monitor on but, as the waters were clear when they did so, they didn't. So ime it isn't routine although this was a few years ago.

It was a further 3 hours before he was born ( by ventouse), externally monitored throughout. When he was born the cord was wrapped around him and had been tightening around him during each contraction. Fortunately his apgars were ok and he soon cried. However he has motor skill issues and we do wonder if that is related to his birth.

HellyBelly · 17/10/2005 14:29

My sister had the cord wrapped around her neck which caused lots of problems in her childhood. She was very very poorly for many years and couldn't even feed out of a bottle, sit up or anything normal like that. This was 28 years ago (last month) and she's fine now with 2 kiddies of her own - she's VERY lucky! My poor mum not only had this to cope with but also me (18 months old) and my sister's twin brother who'd come out first!

These days the complications are not like they were then and normally they know there's a problem and sort it!

The cord may explain your problems with ds now but I'm sure he'll be ok. What problems exactly does he have? My sister really did go through an amazing journey to become who she is today!! Sure your ds will be just fine

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butty · 17/10/2005 14:29

LIZS, i too faced a similar situation to yourself with dylan.
His heart rate wasn' being picked up properley and i was in a lot of pain although they said i wasn't having contractions, they then decided to get the scalp thingie for him, but y the time they came back, i was in screaming agony, they checked me to find that i was 9 centimeters dialted, broke my waters and had a painful labour.
Dylan had his cord round his neck, and now has severe global development delay, hypotonia and suspected CP.
However, on the notes for dylans birth it states "NO COMPLICATIONS" my backside.
As far as i'm concerned they have covered there tracks and due to the lack of oxygen dylan's problems were probably caused by this incedent!!!

Sorry to go on, but that is how i feel!!!!

Butty.xxx

HellyBelly · 17/10/2005 14:34

Oh butty, that's awful I don't know if it will make you feel any better but read my note below. My sister was seriously ill and even had a 'cot death' (the experts said) when she was very young but dad gave her mouth to mouth etc and she came back. As I said, she had many major problems (could go through this if you want?) but you wouldn't believe that now she's 28. We all cried at her wedding when dad started talking about how lucky we were to have her here - got to go as waterworks have come again and got 2 mindees to wake up. Just wanted to give you hope that a full recovery is very possible!!

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butty · 17/10/2005 14:38

Thankyou for your kind words.
It's just hard sometimes knowing that these problems could have been avoided, and in which case my son would have a very different life.(thats to say if these were the causes)
He is nearly 3, he can't walk, can't speak and is 2 years delayed overall.
He is having an MRI on thursday to see how badly his frontal lobe is underdeveloped and to determine the speech side of things!!

Butty.xxx

LIZS · 17/10/2005 14:43

butty, that is very distressing for you. I feel so lucky as ds' "issues" are very mild (dyspraxic tendencies, we think) and have been very much helped by an enthusiastic OT.

butty · 17/10/2005 14:46

Thanks LIZS,

We have very supportive pros involved with dylan, he has a statement of special educational needs and attends the local special schools nursery.
He is happy, and that is the main thing, so i really shouldn't moan, after all there are worse ordeals as stated on this thread.
Butty.xxx

threelittlebabies · 26/11/2005 10:56

HellyBelly what did your friend decide to do re the hospital's negligence? How is she doing?

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