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At wit's end with ds - he has a reputation as "the boy who bites".

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By Mon 02-Nov-09 14:44:47 Add message | Report | Contact poster

Ds is 3 in Jan, and has a really bad biting problem. He bites anyone and everyone, me, his baby sister, his friends, dh - literally everyone. The other week I had to remove him from a soft play party because he bit 3 children (2 of them complete strangers), I smacked his leg - after warning him that I would - after he bit baby dd yesterday. Today we were having a really good day, so I took him to the park to meet my friend and her dd, who's the same age. I had my back turned for a minute (if that) while feeding dd and he attacked my friend's dd and bit her so hard that she is bleeding.

I just don't know what to do anymore - I have tried biting him back, smacking, ignoring and giving the injured party the attention, time out, taking toys away, removing privileges, reward charts. Everything.

He also kicks, bites, spits, hits - his behaviour is just vile, to be honest.

You know you see those threads on here about the horrible child who attacks other children for no reason whatsoever, the "little shit", well that's ds. Parents tell their kids not to play with him because he's so awful to other children.

I am at a loss. I am struggling to think of a single redeeming feature that he has. Even I don't like him anymore, and he's my son. sad

<<awaits flaming>>

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 13-Nov-09 08:56:56

Taf We used a cranial osteopath for my ds2 who has a dx of ADHD ... it was amazing. We go for 'top ups' every 6 months. I can say, hand on heart, it has been a bit of a miracle for him. I'm really happy things are working out for you both - my ds1 was a prolific biter until he was 3, I understand what a nightmare it can be for the parents. Pleased to say he's now a charming, sensitive 13 year old smile

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 13-Nov-09 07:49:53

Fantastic news that things are so much better.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 13-Nov-09 07:39:21

No, this was the first time. I took him because he had a bad birth, was induced at 38 weeks, then had ventouse and then was shoved roughly onto my boob by a stupid HCA! The osteopath said it was no wonder he was unsettled as a baby, he probably had a whopping great headache!

I'm not 100% convinced by it - the theory behind it seems very woolly and the osteopath had reiki certificates in the waiting room ( hmm

) but it does appear to have had some effect so I'm not complaining! It's an expensive placebo though.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 13-Nov-09 00:52:02

Has he been to the cranial osteopath before? Wondering whether it might be worth taking DS.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 12-Nov-09 21:15:55

Yep, can't wait!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 12-Nov-09 20:28:16

are you going then?

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 12-Nov-09 20:14:20

Maybe next year...

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 12-Nov-09 20:12:23

Thanks slubber.

Are you coming to the Xmas do this year?

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 12-Nov-09 20:07:38

Yay.
Great to hear things are improving. Well done to ds for being a kind and helpful boy.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 12-Nov-09 19:38:51

UPDATE!

Took ds to a cranial osteopath last Thursday and the change in his behaviour has been nothing short of miraculous! He is calmer, listens to me, hasn't bitten anyone for a whole week (although we had a hitting incident yesterday, but there were mitigating circumstances!) and doesn't even retaliate when he is bitten.

Whether it's the actual osteopathy, or whether it's a placebo effect meaning I'm less stressed, so he's calmer, i don't know but I'm not going to knock it.

He got a sticker today at playschool for being a kind and helpful boy. I'm so, so proud. smile

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