I wasn't sure where to put this. Do you think some children are naturally outgoing and well, bossy for want of a btter word, or do you think their parents instill it in them?
I'm asking because I am in the hall on the PC. DS2 has his friend in playing. The friend is 6, so a year younger. So far I have heard him shouting (because he doesn't speak, he shouts)
"If I can't be Luke Skywalker then I'm going home"
"I want you to be John cena, I'm being (_ fill in blank space). He always wins in fights with John Cena"
"I want to go out and play in the park and we can take your toy star wars figures".
DS2 said no to this and was told
"OH well I'm off then".
So I went up stairs and told him to go then, if he wasn't going to play nicely then he wasn't playing at all. He is always wanting to come in our house, they always have to play his games, he goes into major strops if DS2 is playing with other friends. What worries me thoiugh is that DS2 gives into him. He lets this child get his own way all the time and I worry that he's not going to be able to stand up for himself when he gets older. He did the other day, this child came to the door and asked for DS2. I said he was playing at he park with the twins. Next thing i knew this boys mum was at the door complaining. Turns out her son had gone to DS2 and the twins in the park and told them he wanted to play Star Wars with them. They were playing something else and said no, but that he could join them. DS2 had also told him
"My mum says you can't get your own way all the time and you can play with us if you want but it'll need to be our game, not yours". Cue much crying from this child and his mum at my door. So now DS2 is back to letting this child get his won way, and like I said I'm a bit worried about how he will deal with things when he is older and also how this child is in the playground with DS2, as DS2 has often said that this boy ignores him until DS2 does what he wants. he is a very loud child, i don't think he can help it.
Do we make our children outgoing and confident and bossy and whatever? Do I need to start on this with DS2? Sorry if this is long and rambling, it's been bothering me for a while now
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saltire · 24/03/2007 17:42
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