Hi
My 4 year old boy (who I'll refer to as "H") is normally an adorable, happy, loving, sensible, and fun little boy but he has recently started to be very rude and confrontational towards me. He has started disobeying me, not listening etc. and his behaviour has become stroppy and involves lots of answering back, shouting, having the last word, and repeating things i've said to him such as "Don't speak to me like that", "Don't be so rude to me" and "I won't put up with that sort of behaviour", ie. the kind of retorts that I'd expect if he was 11-15 years old but surely not at the age of 4?! When I tell him off he either raises his eyebrows in a 'gosh how tiresome' fashion or bursts into tears with "It's not fair" and "You've upset me now". It's bewildering and breaking my heart. How can I teach H that it's acceptable for me, as his mother, to make such comments, but it is rude for him to do so - It's a complicated lesson that children need to learn. I've tried with-holding treats, banning TV for periods of time, and a reward chart, but all to no avail. I've also tried to be very loving, tactile, and calm - trying to explain things to him, but he still continues with the same behaviour. My husband is very supportive and H is similar towards him, but not as bad - the bad behaviour is mostly aimed at me. We have thought that the cause could possibly be the introduction of a little brother who is now 9 mths old (who I'll refer to as "P")... but he seems to adore him and we do our absolute best to share our attention between them both. Another thought is that it might be TV ... We have "Sky" and he flicks through all the children's channels - I presumed that they were all appropriate but have recently noticed some such as "Horrid Henry" in which cartoon children answer back to their parents etc. I will of course make sure he only watches certain channels from now on. Anyway, thank you so much for 'listening' to what has been very long-winded. Any help/advice/ideas would be very much appreciated.
With best wishes.
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desperatemumlivingbythesea · 24/02/2007 20:42
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