all kids do it, don;t they? we've just been on holiday. 5 out of 6 families dealt with it in pretty much the same way "I'll talk to you when you drop the whiney voice and speak to me properly". the kids didn;t get told off as such, just a clear message that it wasn't acceptable and they weren't going to get a response. but one family drove me up the wall. one child in particular whined and whinged and moaned and complained about everything. (she had a horrible holiday, apparently, the place sucked, the cake was horrid, and she wanted to go home. on and on and on). I never once heard the remotest tinge of disapproval from an adult. no guidance or hint that this was not an acceptable way of being. just responses to her whines. the poor kid needs to know! she's already having the piss taken out of her by her peers, she's already coming up against adults who don;t have time for her. what hope has she got if nobody tells her? I know you're meant to ignore bad behaviour - but this isn;t ignoring it - it's responding to it - it's conducting a conversation with it. I can just about accept that there might be circumstances I don;t know about that justify the parents' behaviour, but I'm not entirely sure what.
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how do you deal with whining and whinging? (or a thinly veiled judgmental thread...)
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hatwoman · 19/02/2007 14:12
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