I have talked about this on MN before but am still struggling and I wonder if anyone can help. My dd is and has a couple of cousins about the same age. The other two girls see each other alot (their mothers are sisters - I am the SIL). When DD sees either one of the cousins on their own everything is fine - usual girls stuff but they manage to sort it out. However when all three of them are there the other two are awful to her - so much so that the last couple of times we have all been there my dd has been in tears. Same thing happeneed on Saturday night. I spoke to the girls nad asked them why they were so awful to DD - they said they didn't know. I asked them if they thought they were mean to her - they said yes they were. I asked them how they would like it if somebody treated them the way they treat DD - they said they wouldn't like it. I told them I didn't care it they didn't like DD but if they were going to be mean to her that i was going to take her away from them and that they would not be playing with her. They obviously thought about this and after a while came to get DD - so far so good. Then my DD tells me that one of the other girls there was being mean to her as well - wouldn't let her choose anything, let the others do stuff that she wouldn't let DD do.
Now I am starting to wonder if my DD is just one of those children who is not popular with other children - have I made her like this - she is an only child so is probably quite spoilt as day to day she doesn't have to share toys etc but when she has friends over - or just one of the cousins there is no problem, but I am quite a strict mum on behaviour - much more so than my SILs. DD is quite an assertive child - is she just getting other people's backs up - if so how do I help her to modify her beaviour without becoming a pushover or knocking all of the spirit out of her.
If you have managed to read this far thank you. This has been a really hard post for me to write.
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Can anyone help? is it me?
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mummycan · 12/02/2007 12:08
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