my dd is driving me to the brink

[AnAngelWithin]

Shes a year old. All she does is cry. Unless we are out and shes in the pram, car, or sitting in her highchair eating, then she's just crying. She was such a placid baby when she was born. I hardly knew I had her. But the past month, she is really getting to me. She is showing no signs of crawling, infact she refuses to put any weight on her legs. She rolls over occasionally. She wont sit and play. She wakes up in the middle of the night and spends hours crying. Wont take a bottle or anything. She has just finally crashed on the sofa here after getting up just after midnight, her face all red and wet with tears, and I am sat here crying wondering what I have done wrong. Either I am a bad mother or she just hates me. DH just came downstairs swearing and walking round like a lost sheep so i told him to just go back to bed and leave us alone. I am so tired. I can't get anything done in the day. I have tried leaving her but she gets so wound up shes sick sometimes. Shes making my life a misery at the moment. I want my contented little darling back. Ok. I give up , shes waking up again now

[nearlyfourbob]

Are you sure she's not ill. How many months was she placid for, and how long has this been going on?

[feelingreallyupset]

have you taken her to gp? is she physically allright? if she is allright then she may have some frustrations, like trying to walk or talk etc. not all children crawl.
or sometimes some teeths coming out change them a lot.

[hercules1]

I can only repeat other posts. Please take her to the gp to check everything is okay.

[AnAngelWithin]

She was placid right up until about a month ago. She got up again after I posted. Took til after 5 to get her back off. Shes woken up again now and just sat here sucking her thumb, but if i dare leave the room she screams the place down. She doesn't look like shes got any teeth coming through. Her gums aren't red of swollen. I am teary and exhausted. DH has just taken the big kids to school for me which is something. I can't stand anther day of this. If i take her to the doctors they will say that shes just going through a phase and will grow out of it or something I bet.

[colditz]

Try giving her some calpol anyway. She might have a head ache or something.

[AnAngelWithin]

have given her some medised as shes got a bit of a runny nose as well. Not sure if thats from all the crying though. Shes refusing to take any milk. Either in a bottle of a beaker. Shes had some cheerios and half a banana though.

[colditz]

Try her with water?

[AnAngelWithin]

she wont take it. have tried everything in bottles, beakers, cups, spoons etc. Shes driving me mad

[Enid]

oh she sounds ill

and over tired

give her some nurofen as well and see if it helps

try not to give her too much medised - she needs proper, ie unmedicated, sleep

[Enid]

she could well have an ear infection (very few visible signs)

[AnAngelWithin]

medised is all i have got in at the moment. I have only given her the one dose so im not drugging her to sleep. I don't like giving them painkillers etc unless they really need it as I think the don't work as well when they really do need them if they are used to them.

Yes she could have an ear infection I suppose, but I don't think shes been ill for the past month though?

Will see how she is when she wakes up then ring the doctor.

[Enid]

she cuold have been cmoing down with a cold athat has settled in her ears - also it could have coincided with seperation anxiety (poor you)

honestly get them checked out by the gp