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10 month old not said mama yet....

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mumeroo · 30/01/2007 19:27

Should DS have said this yet? DH is a sweetie and always tells me DS is fantastic and not to worry... part of me knows he's right but part of me is worrying. HV said if he hasn't said anything by a year she will refer him... this sounds a bit scary to me...surely we all learn at diff rates? anyone else have the same? I talk with him all the time and we look at books... would be interested to hear from others.

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AlanasMum · 30/01/2007 19:28

does he say anything or make gurgle noises?

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SturdyAngel · 30/01/2007 19:31

My DS is 9 1/2 months and he hasn't said any words yet. I hadn't even thought about it before I read your post! I'm not worried at all. He is very noisy, gurgling & shouting ALL the time

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tribpot · 30/01/2007 19:33

Eh? I'm quite sure my ds didn't say mama til well after 1. Dada, possibly but not by 9 months and not applied to anything in particular. If you talk to him and look at books, he is way ahead of the general population, there is nothing to worry about!

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mumeroo · 30/01/2007 19:36

yep he shouts a lot and makes noises...waabaabaabaa! etc a lot of 'eh' and what sounds like 'yeah' too! I'm being silly probably unfortunately someone had told me babies have an average of 3 words by the time they are one. What's average huh! you've made me feel better already. Of course i'm biased but he seems a bright boy. My first word was doggie apparently so I guess some babies just sidestep mama!
sturdyangel you are sage too.

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mumeroo · 30/01/2007 19:38

ta tribpot you are brilliant. Worries are niggling things and just wanted to share em.

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moondog · 30/01/2007 19:38

HV being over cautious but probably better than under cautious.Good rule of thumb is to expect a single word (or words) at one,two together at two and little sentences at three.
Am a speech and lang. therapist btw.
Don't worry at all at this stage.
Is he smiling? Pointing? Playing?

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mumeroo · 30/01/2007 19:42

smiles tons, not really into pointing and plays for sure ) that sounds like useful advice, thanks Moondog

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peanutbutterkid · 30/01/2007 19:53

Mumeroo's ds sounds oh so normal to me. None of my 3 said "mama" meaning their own mummy, until 20-22 months. They said lots of other words first. Especially car, socks, bye. Do HVS really refer if they don't have a word by one year old?(!)

In fact, 2 of my children didn't have a first word by 1. They both turned into complete and utter chatterboxes by 3, though admittedly they weren't very clear. Third child sort of managed a first word by 1, but then nothing I could identify until he was almost 19 months. By age 5, his reception teacher couldn't say enough about how articulate he was.

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lemonaid · 30/01/2007 19:55

DS didn't say "mama" for ages. He probably had at least a dozen words (including the name of MIL's dog ) before he ever got round to "mama". His first word (at around a year) was "duck", I think. Now he's just two and putting together three- or four-word sentences some of the time.

There's a huge difference between ten months and a year -- your DS is babbling and trying to communicate, which is the important thing, and it doesn't sound as though you've got anything to worry about.

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tribpot · 30/01/2007 20:03

Ooh, smiles tons Very worrying. NOT.

Moondog, I'm sure your averages are right, but ds at 1 had not much more than the occasional word and at 19 months can say things like "no no baby gone" and "mama go bin" (Mummy I want to go to the swings). I reckon development of walking has a huge part to play in how quickly (and when) language develops. The pointing thing I think happens at about 1 year and is a huge relief to parents generally - finally junior has a way of communicating what they want, even if you have to pick up 7 things in the general vicinity of the pointing to find out which one is wanted!

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tribpot · 30/01/2007 20:08

Oh by the way the addition of 'no' to the lexicon is hilarious, here is a transcript of a recent convo between ds and dh whilst I was upstairs.

DH: Right then, shall we get our shoes on?
DS: No!
DH: Don't you want to go out to the swings?
DS: Noooooooooooooooooooooo [even though he has been asking to go for 3 hours]
DH: Okay, shall we leave you here whilst we go out?
DS: Bye bye mama.

Classic.

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mandymac · 30/01/2007 20:20

DD's first proper word was Duck and this was on her first birthday (at a farm with lots of them around). She didn't get around to Mama for a month or two after that. Now at 19 months, she is putting 3 words together:
'mummy aw wet' - after splashing me in the bath!
Think your HV is over reacting a bit tbh.

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Fillyjonk · 30/01/2007 20:24

eh?

ok if he has not said a word by 2 then consider getting a bit worried

speech is one of those things that really does develop at individual rates

please don't worry

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staceym11 · 30/01/2007 21:12

my friends ds didnt talk until he was nearly 3, he could (and i told her so regularily), but he chose not to, his first word was chocolate!! (see i said he could talk) however he could get what he wanted from pointing and grunting, so he figured there wasnt a lot of point to talking!

dont worry till hes 2, my dd first said mama at about 13 month and shes now 2 and never stops talking, she has ful blown convos with strangers and they can understand her, its no worry, he'l get it!

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MerryMarigold · 30/01/2007 21:16

surely HV didn't mean proper words with meaning, just gabbling. Ds is 14mo and says mamamamamam sometimes but NOT to mean me. He says dadadada more but not to mean daddy either. The only word he says with meaning is 'bow' (which is ball). I definitely wouldn't worry...esp if he is beginning to understand things, pointing etc. by a year.

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Othersideofthechannel · 31/01/2007 05:52

Mine both said cheese first, several months before before they said Mama. DS' second word was car. Shows where their priorities lie

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eidsvold · 31/01/2007 06:10

according to dd1's speech therapist the 'm'; sound is actually quite hard for children to say and they will be more inclined to say the harder sounds like 'd', and 'b' just to name two - which is why babes often can say - dada, baba etc before mama.

so no need to worry just yet.

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aviatrix · 31/01/2007 06:20

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airy · 31/01/2007 06:33

My dd didn't come out with any recognisable words until she was 2, everything before then was babbling. Her first word was goal btw...too much football! lol
I was only just starting to worry then, and nobody said anything to make me think otherwise either.

DD is now nearly six, and I can't shut her up

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Nightynight · 31/01/2007 07:10

dd1 was a very late speaker - I am sure she was more than 1 year old before she said dada or mama - she managed "Daddy" (her first real word) on her 18 month "birthday".
She hasnt shut up since, though

Ignore the HV on this occasion if there's nothing else worrying you about your dd's development....

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dejags · 31/01/2007 07:39

no real words by two (could say words which were only intelligible to DH, DS1 and I)

now at 28 months - yes only four months later he is speaking in sentences.

they all develop at their own pace, try not to worry

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deaconblue · 31/01/2007 11:17

DS 9 months makes a noise that might be mama, but it definitely isn't connected with me. He makes sounds all day though. I'm sure if your ds is making noises he's fine. My nephew didn't say a word until he was 2 and was speaking in full sentences a month later and now at 7 can't be shut up.

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kateandfelicity · 31/01/2007 13:12

ah yes...i remember this one.

dd's first word was 'dak' (duck), she said 'dada' and then 'da-dee'

despite all my brainwashing efforts she just wasn't remotely interested in saying mummy' - my theory is, they know they can make any noise, and you'll respond?

dd is now 21 months and say 'mummy' very nicely...

i think she only really 'got it' about er 16 months? something like that.

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auntymandy · 31/01/2007 14:11

my Ds is28 months and has his own language!
Never said Daddy or Dad or mummy. says mum. he can hear and understand so no real worries although he has been refered to ST.

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Bozza · 31/01/2007 14:16

My DN is nearly two and still does not say mama. If you ask him where his mummy is he points to his tummy! My sister not over impressed by this, mind you.

I'm not sure either of mine were saying mama at 1. They definitely learned other words first. And 10 months is a long way from 1. It will be a fifth of his life.

TBH as he is babbling I really wouldn't worry. DS was behind with his speech (partly due to glue ear) but has been the most enormous chatterbox for ages - he is 5.