Lack of concentration

[aragon]

Help! My son will be 4 in December and seems to have no boundries at all. He can be perfectly well-behaved one moment and not the next (okay - so this is every child) but he doesn't seem to have any attention span and lacks any ability to concentrate.
It really hit me the other evening when he went to a Halloween party - all the other children seemed so much older than him (they weren't). All sat to play pass the parcel - and mmy DS just didn't have a clue - all he wanted to do was run around. A couple of times I could see parents looking at me because he was so "all over the place" and I just wanted to die. In the end we left before it finished as i9 couldn't stand it a moment longer. I dodn't say anything to DS - just said "wasn't the party good fun" etc. But I did say to my hubby that DS seemed so yoiung in comparison to other children.
The next day he went to nursery and his key worker said they are worried about him because of the lack of concentration and want a SENCO (Special Educational Needs person) to come and observe him. It just threw me - especially as I had been worried myself.


He is very easily distracted and taking him round a supermarket is a nightmare - if you were in Sainsbury's at Taunto this morning - yes - that was me pinning down the child with my legs who was lying on the floor screaming and kicking out at the people behind me in the queue because I wouldn't let him run off!
Am I expecting to much? He's not 4 yet and an only child. My Mum says I have "babied" him (whatever that means). Is this usual for children without brothers and sisters. Sharing is a huge issue for him and the tantrums are still spectacular (although short-lived) when they occur. He even bangs his head (deliberately) on the floor in temper at times when everyone elses child has long since given it up.

I just don't know what to think. My husband just says "Oh - you're a health visitor - you must know if he's normal or not for goodness sake". But I don't - DH doesn't seem to understand that there's a wealth of difference between looking at a child objectively as part of my job and looking at my own child with all the mother/child emotions involved.

Any ideas

[LIZS]

hmm , hard to say really as he is so little and may just be a bit immature for whatever reason and lack much of a concentration span , as many boys of his age will. Have you tried Fish Oils/ Omega supplements ?

[aragon]

Have just started them today . He likes them - thank goodness.