Clingy stage - URGHH!

[munz]

how long is it ment to go on for?

Joey is having major issues at the minute when he can't see me, even if he's left with dh and i'm pottering in the room, he'll scream till I go in and pick him up.

anyways around it or does it have to ride out? he'll play nicely with his toy's when it's just me and him etc and I think DH is getting a little upset that the boy won't be settled by him/crys when hes' with him.

ooh also - he's found the doors,and u push them and they shut! as a rule we don't like having all the inner doors shut so anything we can do about that?

(he's just gone 8 months)

[tribpot]

I'm afraid it can go on for a long time. Ds (16 months) is only just over the worst of it, and even now has days when he cries if I so much as turn my back on him.

The door obsession also started around 8 months; I wasn't fussed about them being closed so much as little fingers being trapped in the door or the hinge. We've got some doorstoppers from Mothercare so at least they won't shut fully. You could tell him NO whenever he tries to shut a door, but (a) I'm not sure it's worth making a big battle over something like that and (b) I think the curiosity is quite normal, he's not really doing anything 'wrong'. I tend to reserve NO just for those things which are dangerous and/or expensive, i.e. the hard disk recorder!

[stoppinattwo]

DD is nearly 5, and she still cant function if i go out without her, she is permanantly attached to my left hip

[munz]

lol - tbh when he goes on a door shutting episode, i'm a real meanie and bring him inot the room and shut the doors behind me - it's mainly the fingers bring hurt issue! lol. I'm not tending to make an issue out of it (as I thought that would make it worse??) thank god he's not yet worked out there's doors on cupboards! lol.

god I was hoping clingy only lasted a few weeks!

[tribpot]

My SIL claimed it "only lasted a few weeks" but either she was lucky (or her kids weren't very clingy due to being in nursery practically their entire waking lives!) or she was trying to make me feel better about the horror to come

[Tickle]

If you don't mind the scruffy look you can tie a scarf or other fat squishy fabric from door handle to door handle (on the same door!) that will stop the door closing, but he can still have fun swishing it back and forth.

Doesn't help with fingers in the hinge of course!

my 9mo has developed a partic unappealing high pitched yell when I walk away. double urrgghh

[munz]

lol tickle! scruffy! you've been in my house then!

[Tickle]

lieutenant scruffy (danish division) reporting in