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LazyLou · 28/10/2006 16:49

Sorry about that!

Grrrr, my dd is driving me crazy and I am desperately trying not to shout at her. Although it is proving very difficult.

She is in one of those moods today where she is doing everything she can to make me snap; climbing up the bookcases, pulling my clean washing all over the floor (which desperately needs washing . Her toys are EVERYWHERE and despite numerous nice requests to pick a few things up, I get told 'no' or 'you do it'.

I've tried ignoring her, sitting her down and explaining that mummy is busy trying to get things done around the house and still nothing.

What do you do with a 2.10yr old that just WILL NOT do as they are asked, however you try and word it to them?

I am really in danger of losing it with her, this has been going on for days and I am totally and utterly worn out by it.

To make matters worse, I have a presentation to prepare for Tuesday Uni and my babysitter has let me down, so no chance of getting anything done.

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Gobbledispook · 28/10/2006 16:51

IME, the only way to deal with this is to go out. Even if you just take her out for a walk round the streets - a decent walk for her - exercise and fresh air - might mean she'll play more nicely when you get back. She won't be as full of energy!

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LazyLou · 28/10/2006 16:51

and now she is demanding lunch (even though she had it at 12 and has since had snack)! Dinner is only an hour away

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PizPizPiz · 28/10/2006 17:17

Have you tried showing her that you're really cross by her attitude and that it has to stop now or some action will have to be taken. No shouting, but firm voice. The soft approach has limits imo. Good luck for your presentation

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LazyLou · 28/10/2006 19:52

Tried that too! It seems that nothing I do seems to work. I'm all for labelling feelings and have sat her down and tried to explain to her that mummy feels cross and sad when she doesn't do what she is asked, and that it isn't nice. Would you like to feel cross/sad etc... but still nothing.

I really don't know what to do now and I am really at my wits end

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divastrop · 28/10/2006 19:57

give her a damp cloth and get her to wash the floor

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3littlefrogs · 28/10/2006 22:56

2 to 3 year olds are like puppies. The only way to control the weeing on the floor and destroying your belongings/house etc is plenty of long, long walks. I used to walk mine (children that is)until their little legs were practically dropping off, but with 2 very lively boys it was the only way to stay sane. They also have an amazing radar that kicks in whenever you are desperate to get on with a really important task that has a deadline, then they get really whiny and attention seeking. The more you try to do anything that doesn't centre on them, the worse they get. It goes with the age I'm afraid. I used to wear them (and me)out, then rush to my essay / accounts or whatever as soon as they were asleep and pray that they would stay asleep for a reasonable length of time. It is awful when your babysitter lets you down though. I hope she is fast asleep now and you are managing to get some work done. Good luck.

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LazyLou · 29/10/2006 00:42

DD went to bed eventually after a huge tantrum and a long walk at 7:30 and I am sorry to say that I managed to get absolutely nothing done. Well, the x-factor was on....

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