not sure where to put this thread as it covers feeding, sleeping and nappy/potty training but here goes:
will try to be concise, but cant promise anything
have got our bedtime routine a bit skewed. its ok, and it works, sort of, for now, but theres a fatal flaw which will become a problem if we dont fix it, adn i want some advice as to how to go about that.
first, we have: ds1 whos 3.4, ds2 whos 2.3 and ds3 whos 8m.
currently we do: wind down time, bath at 7 (all of them in together) then into older 2 boys' room to get on nappies and pjs at which point i take ds3 to our room and dp reads a story to older 2 while they drink a bottle each and then sits there with light out till they are settled/asleep (usually only needs about 10 mins)
meanwhile i am giving 8mo a bf (tho he will v recently accept a bottle) for about 20mins/1/2 hr in dark rm. he falls asleep this way and i put him in his cot and leave. the idea is to put him down awake, and sometimes he is. just. but not by much.
mostly, well, largely, they will each then go through the night - though it is far from uncommon for 1 or more of them to need attention in the night at some point and they are always put back to sleep with a new bottle by either dp or myslef. sometimes the older ones may get me to lie with them till they go back to sleep (which is tiring, but actually really nice if im honest).
now. the prob with this is:
A-they are drinking too much at night so weeing tons. ds's 1 and 2 wear 2 nappies at night and sometimes leak even through this. ds's 1 and 2 are currently learning to use the potty too, but they'll never conquer night wee's while drinking so much at night.
B-not great for teeth either. they brush while in the bath, but then drink to go to sleep so... and worse, ds1 has VERY watered down juice, not milk (hes gone off milk and v stubborn), but juice all the same and i fear for his teeth
C-they all now 'need' to be drinking to fall asleep! which isnt great coz they will always need assitance/drinks to fall asleep... (older 2 always have 1 spare bottle each on their bedside tables in case of night wakings)
sooooo...
what do i do?
ah, yes - also relevent is that we are currently staying in 2 bedroom guest accom next to our house which is being extended/knocked about. we are due to move back into the house (and have much more room tho i want the boys to share a room) in march. which will unsettle any established routine but not by much so maybe not a consideration.
in january ds1 (then 3.7) will start a new nursery building up to full time,
ds2 (then 2.6) will start at local preschool 5 mornings p/w
and ds3 will turn 1yo. so should i try to implement changes before or after all that?
so sorry for the long essay question there! should prob be about 4 threads not 1...
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looooong question.... help please!
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nappiesLaGore · 13/10/2006 20:39
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