Ok, so have posted a couple of times now with questions around DD's behaviour, all of which I've been told is completely normal but bear with me as am a FTM! She is 14 mo.
In the mornings before we drop her off at the CM she is lively, active, running around the house, laughing, playing etc.
When I get to the CM's house she is silent and expressionless. She literally does not show ANY kind of emotion, doesn't wave goodbye to me or seemingly react to ANYTHING. She cried every morning for the first couple of weeks when she started with the CM (5 months ago) and then she was fine so I was really relieved. But now I'm a bit concerned again. I honestly can't tell how she feels when I drop her off?! She doesn't look happy or unhappy. She goes to the CM willingly and just looks around without seeming to register anything. There is a lack of eye contact and she will not really engage with me as I say goodbye etc.
The CM also looks after a 2 year old who literally runs into the house laughing and giggling when her parents drop her off. She will run up to DD and offer her a toy. DD takes it silently without expression and just stares at it.
In the evening the CM says that when she hears the bell ring when DP arrives to collect her she gets very excited etc. However when DP walks in the room to get her he says she doesn't seem particularly animated. He is not concerned at all by the way and thinks I am worrying over nothing.
By the time he gets her home (5 min walk) she is her 'usual' self again, running around shouting and laughing.
The CM has reported no concerns with her at all. She says she is one of the easiest kids she has looked after, rarely cries but is occasionally very clingy (will not get down and play at the childrens centre etc). She describes her as 'chilled out'. She likes things like going on the swings and when she is in a non-clingy mood will apparently happily roam around and try out toys etc at the play centre. The CM has sent me pictures (in the past) of DD during the day playing happily at the park but not in recent times.
I'm not really sure what I'm asking here but I guess I have a nagging doubt about how happy she is with the CM. Why would she just be completely expressionless and unmoved when I leave her? Is the fact that she DOESN'T show any emotion a good sign and perhaps she is just getting her bearings when she arrives?
Apologies if this 'problem' seems ridiculous..I know I worry too much sometimes.
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DD completely expressionless/unmoved when I leave her with CM
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Eastie77 · 01/09/2014 12:34
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