I am struggling a bit with my 8 year old daughter. Neither of us are very happy and I'm not sure what I could be doing differently.
I am struggling with her selfishness. Examples from the last 2 days:
Taking 2 of the 3 towels after swimming and leaving her 2 yr old sister shivering without a towel. Refusing to hand one over "because its freezing! I'll be cold with just one".
Carefully sorting through the wrappers of the ice creams so she only throws her own away (when asked). Point blank refusing to throw anyone else's wrappers away.
Running down the iPad battery and not telling her brother who was sitting waiting for his turn. She just left him waiting for it.
Smashing my hair dryer. Forgetting to mention it.
Whole family watching a film - she casually angles the screen so only she can see it well. Not done for effect or to be funny or naughty - just seems totally unaware that the other people in the room might want to see the screen too.
Oh perhaps there all sound petty. Do I just need to relax? The thing is, we're a fairly gentle family, we all help each other out, everyone unloads the car after shopping, everyone pitches in with setting the table and that sort of thing, and I feel like she has switched all of that off. She never ever ever offers to help, or does or says anything nice for anyone, but she also feels very angry like she's hard done by, but I really don't think she is. Is this normal for an 8 year old?
I also worry about her socially. She is very in your face, and tries to relate to people by deliberately annoying them. Her peers seem less awkward. She has friends, and she likes to play the clown of the group - her best friend admits that her silliness is hard work sometimes.
I want to tell her to relax and just be her beautiful self. She is funny and interesting and imaginative and has so much to offer. But instead she speaks in a grating squawk and does this 'moon face' thing where she looms her face in front of whoever she's speaking to and won't move away. And now I feel disloyal because she only means to be funny. I've told her that people don't like it, and we've chatted about good qualities in people we admire and I've praised her good qualities.
I just worry about her.
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How selfish is your average 8 yr old? (Please let the answer be "breathtakingly selfish")
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Shhthebabyisasleep · 28/07/2014 07:42
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