DS (4 next month) starts school in September, a CofE school. His nursery informed me this evening when I picked him up that his school phoned them today to ask if his new form teacher could meet with relevant people at nursery to discuss him because they have concerns about his behaviour at church. Apparently they don't want to talk about any of the other children going to the school - just my DS because they think his behaviour is a problem. I don't have a problem with them being concerned about his behaviour in church because it is pretty shocking (something we are trying to address). He is a 'spirited' child at the best of times but at church he is much much more challenging than usual because he is bored and doesn't like to sit in the pew quietly. He does need to learn how to sit quietly even when not interested but it's a work in progress - he's only 3. He tends to run off a lot and have tantrums during the service. I also don't have a problem with school talking to nursery because this is a good way of them understanding him better (nursery say many schools do this as a matter of course although DS school aren't doing this- just with mine). The issue I am really struggling with is that the school did all this without even raising it with DH and I. I would have been more than happy to sit down and talk this through sensibly with them - as I say, I think his behaviour in church is pretty unruly too. Am I being unreasonable? Nursery agree with me that the school should have at least talked to us first and that DS does not present with problem behaviour at nursery (he doesn't always have his listening ears in and can sometimes wander off if bored but is in general such a lovely caring child - he's never really been a biter/hitter etc). I feel a little bit like we as his parents don't matter at all in such an important issue and am pretty p*d off that no one has ever even raised these concerns with us first. Is this the way it is when they go to school? Can feel a million apron strings being cut as we speak.
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Soon-to-be school contacting DS nursery to discuss his 'problem' behaviour without DH and I knowing
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Madcat22 · 24/07/2014 20:58
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