13 year old DS and almost 11 year old DD sat together at the park - sent away by me for misbehaving. DS said that DD said a lot of unkind things to him as well as saying fuck you DS. He said he didn't hear the f but did hear the .uck.
She owned up to most but not the fuck you.
Got home and 30 minutes sat on the step and in the corner as both can't be telling the truth so either lying as said it or making it up to get her into trouble.
Have had enough. Have fed them and both have gone to their rooms. DD wishes she was dead and hates her life. DS wishes he had a gun.
I am feeling a failure, swore at them and wish they would just get a long for even 5 minutes a day.
I can't tell when they are lying any more. It feels like they are not disciplined if I do nothing - the hard done by in their eye child will kick off at me. Or else I punish an innocent child.
I know lying is meant to be all about development etc but I can't stand it. It is unnecessary and in this case is juts horrible which ever way around it has happened.
I have confiscated lap tops and phones for today and have told them no going out tomorrow. Two days running we have left an activity early because of behaviour. DD yesterday and DS and DD today.
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Itsfab · 23/07/2014 13:08
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