DS is a very sensitive and intelligent child but he is not at all resilient.
He is often worried about very trivial things - the behaviour of kids in his class, sharing the pc at home, he has to wear a vest under his school polo shirt as his chest is 'sensitive' and he can't stand the sensation of the school emblem stitched on the shirt front. He is sentimental about things and finds it hard to let go/ deal with changes. He complains of feeling panicky/ breathless in school assemblies sitting with hundreds of children. He has a few nervous tics/ compulsive behaviours that emerge when he is anxious.
He rarely wants to go on school trips - hated going on the trip to a panto last year and flatly refused to go on the daytrip to France. He doesn't like going out for the day with the family (aside from some very familiar places) and will make it very hard for everyone else if he is unhappy. We are quite hard on him in return as it is very self centred - but sometimes the only way to get him to behave is to let him have his tantrum and then he can see reason - but this palaver is very inconvenient.
As he is my eldest - there is an element of not really knowing how much of his behaviour is 'normal' and just his personality and what is not. Whether we should 'do' anything is an issue that has given DH and I a few sleepless nights over the years. I was hoping emotional maturity would help but I suppose the teen years are a rollercoaster so I can see things could get worse before they improve.
He is a lovely boy and gets brilliant school reports, he is very kind and caring and I love him dearly but I am worried that if I ignore his personality 'quirks' that I am letting him down. There are people with depression in my immediate family and I worry about that. Any experience advice would be much appreciated - Thank you.
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Anxious 9 (nearly 10) yo ds
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bigmouthstrikesagain · 23/07/2014 13:06
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