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Child with violent thoughts

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waksey29 · 23/07/2014 10:50

My 5yr old daughter, who is far from aggressive or violent in day to day life and who has never really suffered from tantrums or outbursts (unlike her younger sister!) has expressed to me this morning that she has violent thoughts towards her friend's and family on daily basis. When questioned she said that even when they're being nice to her she still imagines punching or kicking them and these thoughts are really upsetting her. Has anyone else come across this?

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fooogle · 23/07/2014 13:32

Hi Waksey29 replying in hope that I will have some good karma and someone will help me out also Smile.

Have a 4.8 year old and he can be quite thrashy and gets very cross with things (or people if near by) when angry and denied something he wanted and he hits or bangs things or himself sometimes. I'm assuming this is normal-ish. He also says things about killing people/bashing them/punching them which I find a bit hard to swallow but its usually in a kind of dare devil if I were a pirate/knight whatever though still seems a bit violent. He doesn't seem at all phased to think these things.

Do you think it troubles your daughter because these are unusual emotions for her (i.e. didn't have tantrums much/perhaps hasn't tested some social boundaries?) or that they are kind of overpowering her and she fears she may actually follow through?

Not sure that's great help...

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waksey29 · 23/07/2014 22:25

Thank you for your response.
I've literally got no idea. Her younger sister (who is 3.5 yrs old)has always had tantrums and is constantly getting into trouble at nursery for not doing as she's told etc but Freya NEVER gets into trouble at school and is really happy and makes friends easily but she is getting really upset by these thoughts. I'm not sure if it's just a phase or if it might be something more. I hate not being able to help her, I've not heard of this before :/

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