NC but regular here. This might be long so apologies in advance and please be gentle with me.
prior to being a mum i was a pretty placid person generally. I was no saint and could get seriously pissed off about things but i think in my whole life i must have shouted at someone about twice. Maybe three times?
Ds was born nearly three years ago. Really bad PND which had very intense treatment from psychiatrists etc and I got better quite quickly with medication etc. Afterthat all was fine. But since ds reached the terribke twos I feel I am losing it more and more. I am so irritable, so shouty, and I hate it. When he's in full tantrum i just can't cope. I yell at him and handle him quite roughly ( e.g. trying to strap him in pushchair). A few weeks ago i smacked him on the bottom - something i never, ever thought i would do. Today he has been tantrumming all day because he was clearly exhausted but absolutely refuses to nap. Twice i just had to walk out of the room and scream, slamming the door. I just said 'oh fuck off!' to him/myself when he was thrashing around refusing a nappy, which i think is totally unacceptable thing to say to a child. Sometimes i feel so angry i have mental images of really hurting him and it terrifies me. I'm pregnant again and really scared that this screaming banshee behaviour is going to get worse.
Please don't respond just to tell me what a terrible person i am. I know this behaviour is totally unacceptable and i can't believe this is me. I should say i do really love him and most of the time things are fine. I'm not constantly like this, but when it happens it's awful. I don't know what damage i might do to his development and can't bear the idea of him growing up to suffer the depression and selfloathing i feel because of bad parenting. Can anybody help?
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whathaveibecome · 22/07/2014 18:28
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