I've got two boys, ds1 is 3.7 and ds2 is 21m. They are quite different personalities in many ways, ds1 is a stubborn thinker who likes things just so and can throw a tantrum to rival the best when he doesn't get his way. He's so stubborn that it can take what feels like hours of screaming to get him to say sorry, although this is something I always insist on. Ds2 is 21m and has always been a more laid-back little soul, very smily and cheery, but also much more physical.
They get on well and have the same sense of humour, but at the moment I am constantly having to referee their fights. Ds1 grabs toys off ds2 even when he clearly doesn't want them, and deliberately plays just roughly enough to push him over the edge into tears. Ds2's cheery nature has translated in recent weeks into thinking everything is a game that should be accompanied with a broad grin, even when it's being told for the hundredth time not to throw stones at his brother's head. He has learnt exactly how to push ds1's buttons and is increasingly at fault in their rows.
Because ds2 is smaller I've been intervening on his side most of the time up to now, because he cries more quickly I guess, and because until recently he didn't seem to be doing anything on purpose. But now I find it's closer to 50-50 and I am totally sick of having to deal with it all the time. They both do it on purpose and I am turning into shouty mummy, which I hate. Any advice from someone who's been through similar?
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Brothers (3.7 and 21m) winding each other up something chronic
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ANiceSitDownAndACuppa · 20/07/2014 20:20
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