I have just written a really long post about my kids arguing and bickering and telling tales and dd interrupted me and I've lost the lot I am on the verge of tears.
Ds is 9, dd 6 and we have a toddler. Ds and dd just seem to fight and bicker all the time. I cannot stand it any more. They tell tales, wind each other up, fight, argue, will not listen, and I realise I am going far wrong here and don't know what to do.
I am that mother who loves the school hols, hate it when they go back, misses them, looks forward to things we can do, I also aspired to be the mother of the kids everyone adores and admires.
I lost the plot with the arguing tonight at dinner and left the table. Told the older 2 to clear the table, ds dropped the humous and it spilled and he stormed off to his room, red in the face and raging, his temper is becomming a worry. He never takes it out on anything he just goes red and shakes and I wonder if this is normal, I notice in the last 8 months a massive shift in him, I guess he's just grown up all of a sudden.
I had a chat after dinner and ds tells me he hates dd as she is so annoying and picks at everything, is cheeky and naughty and so we had a long chat about how everyone is all of those things and he needs to accept blame. He winds her up, she retaliates and he wonders what he did wrong. He hates too many people, too much noise and has no time for younger kids. He seems to have contempt for dd and it worries me.
I see dd turning rapidly in to the "middle child" expecially because of how he makes her feel. Sometimes it's water off a duck's back to her but it shapes the way she develops too.
I have told them both I am not accepting it anymore and it stops now. I will be firm but I think I'm going wrong and need some advice.
Please, only advice and no criticism as it has taken a lot for me to ask for help here. I adore my kids and don't want to make a mess of raising them. I genuinely think I used to be a really good Mum, with loads of time for the children, patience and encouragement and yet now I really think I am not.
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bramblina · 19/07/2014 20:50
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