Hi everyone
Sorry for the long post.
For the past 2 months my DS has been showing some difficult behaviour and I was after some advice of how best to handle it from parents who have experienced this.
So basically my DS has made at least one child/baby cry on every social outing recently whether it be a party, soft play, park etc. I am a first time mum so have not experienced this before and it was quite a shock at first. He has bitten, grabbed, pulled to the ground, pulled hair and smacked other children, usually smaller babies, apart from hair pulling which is older kids too. Just to mention he hasn't learnt this from myself or DH! It is very upsetting, sometimes I dread taking him out but I don't want to exclude him socially. I would love to let him play freely like his little friends, but I am constantly shadowing him to catch him before he does anything. I am very nervous with him around other babies his height or smaller. He loves the bigger kids, he is steady on his feet and it doesn't phase him if he is knocked over. He is a stocky baby who doesn't realise his own strength.
Yesterday before a play date I made sure he had a long nap, a full belly and a dose of bonjela but he still bit his little friend on the shoulder. I felt so awful. He was fine after a couple of hours, I have come to the realisation that he gets very excited with other children especially when it is very busy, when he settles he is okay. On the other hand he also cuddles and kisses other children. I just never know whether he is going to a kiss or bite! I always tell him firmly 'no biting' for example, then try to ignore him and see to the other child if it is safe to do so.
Bit of background - he doesn't go nursery, I work part time and Inlaws watch him a couple days a week. He is usually calm and affectionate, he is bigger than his peers, always been 98 centile, always been very active and curious. I remember him at 8 months crawling and climbing onto the other babies and dragging them to the ground. They usually cried with the shock.
Most research I have done says this is not uncommon of 18m - 3 years but he is just 15m. Some questions?
When will this stop? Is it just a phase or may he still be doing it it 3
Any good tips for getting him to stop?
In your experiences what have been the triggers?
How do I handle the parents? They always seem annoyed with me but what do I do apart from tell him no and apologise to them?
Thanks x x
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15 month DS biting dilemma
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babrow13 · 19/07/2014 00:57
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