I have 2 boys, one 3 and one 11 months. I worked 3 days a week when 3 yo was 9 months - 2.3 years and have been on mat leave until now with about 2 days working to set up as freelance since Jan. Before my mother in law always looked after him but now there are two I can 'to take them both on public transport and she can only come to me one or two days a week. My cousin has been looking after them both 1-2 days a week at home since jan but now my 3 year old hates this. He cries all the time she is looking after him and says he just wants to go to bed and sleep, and worries about it when he knows I won't be able to pick him up from school nursery so much that he made himself sick (pale lethargic) and I had to go and pick him up yesterday even though I was trying to work. I am home sometimes when she looks after them and she is sweet with them both - cooking together and doing crafts together etc. I have found a proper nanny to start from July as my cousin had been very upset about the situation and I thought a professional would manage it better but I am worried he will still be miserable. He tells me he doesn't want me to work just stay at home and look after him and his brother and he doesn't want another mummy! I do need to work financially for the family but I also enjoy working and feel that 3 days a week will help me recharge and be a better mum. I'm very academic and tend to get depressed and lethargic if I have too much time to think/not enough mental stimulation. It is so hard though as his reaction is very extreme. Any words of advice or similar experiences? I don't know what to do!
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